Yes, you will fall out of love.
And it depends on your definition of love.
If your definition of love is based on looks, pleasure, humor, money and all the temporary things/feelings then yes. You are going to fall out of love in a relationship.
Because once you’ve spent significant amount of time with a specific person, everything that made you fall in love will start to fade.
And you can’t do anything about it.
Now, you might wonder how couples grow old together and live their happily ever after. I thought about it too.
Again, it’s based on their definition of love. If you look at your own parents, they probably don’t even express their love. Like what we see on screens or read in novels.
My parents have even never said “I love you” to each other. And they are still together, growing stronger every day. Yes, they have their own disagreements and fights. And that is Normal & much NEEDED.
So, we were talking about the definition of love. The secret behind successful and long lasting relationships is they are based on commitment.
Not like what you listen on loop in songs, it’s real commitment of supporting, growing and sticking with each other no matter what. This type of commitment requires real work.
Nowadays it’s rare to see couple committing to each other. Everyone is confused, afraid and broken to trust anyone. They have already lost themselves in chasing what they never wanted.
Only way to fix this is changing the definition of love. Not everyone needs to have the same one, but we really need to ask ourselves what is that we really want from love.
Once we know our own definition of love then it will be easy find someone with a similar one.
Every relationship starts with attraction. Be it of apperance or personality or anything else. But with time this definition of love needs to be changed.
If you fail to do it, then you’ll fall out of love.
By the way, I’m not sure if this make any sense. This thought just popped up in my mind and I thought it will be a good topic for a short article.
Let me know how you all feel about this in the comments.
Thank you for reading!
[Reposted on 11th November 2020, originally posted 30th March 2020]
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