Do you have any insecurities ?

Do your insecurities affects your performance ?

Do you find it hard to let go of those insecurities ?

If Yes , then this one is for you.

Hello Everyone!

So, Insecurities. Well, we all humans have insecurities about lot of things. There are variety of insecurities people have. It can be Looks, Weight, Grades, Social Media Following, Money, Acceptance, Social skills, etc.

First let’s see what is meaning of insecurity.

What Is Insecurity?

In short, Insecurity is lack of confidence. The things which makes one feel lack of confidence, fear & anxious are known as Insecurities.

For example: Let’s say if someone is insecure about his/her looks then he/she will feel afraid to go out & meet new people. Because he/she has already assumed that they won’t be accepted by people.

Another example : Money. Someone who always compares self with others on the basis of money will mostly feel sad & worried about money he/she own.

But from where do these insecurities arise?

What Causes Insecurities?

There are number of insecurities right now people have. Due to which they are not able to do well in their lives & living in constant fear & sadness.

What made them feel insecure?

  1. Television : Yes , televisions. Televisions have a strong impact on humans. From kids to grandparents , everyone gets influenced by what they see on Televisions. In Movies/Ads/Shows everything is shown perfect. Actor/Actress are shown with perfect looks, perfect physique, lots of money, happiness, love, respect,etc. All of these are used as attractions so that more audience will be created for that particular Movie/Ad/Show. And yes, we get attracted to it. In result we develop insecurities. We stupidly assume that having that life shown in Television is the life which can make us happy. That’s why we end up feeling insecure about our current life by comparing it with what is shown on television.
  2. Social Media : Social media has became a competition for oxygen. I know it is a bad joke, seriously it has became a really important part of our life. How does social media makes you feel insecure? By showing you perfection. Everyone on social media is trying to show others, how perfect their life is. How often you see some celebrity on Instagram/facebook & feel insecure that you don’t have the lifestyle they have or you don’t have appearance like them or perfect relationships like they have. I am sure it happens to a lot of people (Including me).
  3. Society : Society has set certain conditions for an ideal life which is blindly followed just to fit in. For example: In India, A perfect life is Scoring 90+ in Boards➡️ Get a degree by 21 & A Job ➡️ Get Married before 25➡️ Have Kids➡️ Get Old➡️Die. This is followed by many people blindly because they’ve fear of not getting accepted by society. Most famous line used here is “Log Kya Kahenge” (What will people say?). So, for someone who doesn’t fit in this crieteria set by society, it is obvious to develop insecurities.

These are the reasons for developing insecurities.

Now, let’s look how to overcome these insecurities.

How To Overcome Insecurities?

  1. Accpet The Reality : Accept yourself. Accept your Insecurities because everybody has it. No one is born perfect. Do not look at insecurities as a negative trait of yours. Instead use your insecurities to grow yourself. So, Identifying & Accepting is the first step to overcome insecurities.
  2. Stop Comparision : Stop comparing yourself with others. This happens in case of social media, the insecurities people develope from social media because of comparison. People believe that the lifestyle/Body/Relationships shown on social media is the perfect & that’s what they’re lacking. This thinking developes insecurities & Self doubt. But the truth is Nobody is showing their real life on social media. No one posts the problems & struggles in social media. All of them just want to show how happier their life is. In reality , it is a lie. So stop thinking that your life sucks & everyone else is enjoying theirs.
  3. Work On Yourself : Till now you might have thought about “Insecurities” as a bad thing. Actually, it’s the opposite. Why? The things at which you feel insecure doing are the things which will help you grow. Yes, imagine you have a insecurity about public speaking and someday you give a brilliant speech in front of 1000+ people, even though you were scared. What will be result of it? You’ll be proud of yourself. It will be the best feeling for you to overcoming your insecurity & doing your best. So, I want all of us(Including me) to take insecurities as challenges & opportunities to become better version of what we are.

Final Thoughts

Stop comparing yourself to others. Instead start comparing to yourself. Try to fight back your insecurities & fear & keep growing each and everyday.

Insecurities are not bad unless you allow them to make your progress stagnant.

Writing this doesn’t mean I’m over my insecurities. I’m dealing with a lot of them & trying to fight back.

So, What are your insecurities and how are you dealing with them? Let me know in comment section below.

Thank you for reading!

Have A Great Day ❤️


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111 thoughts to “Why So Insecure ?

  • Winnie

    Very well said and great advice! 😊

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  • witasarmah

    Very true….

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  • CHRISTY ISTRATE

    This is such an amazing post! I like how you turned insecurities into stepping stones. This is true… if we do this we will become better. Thank you and God bless you!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m trying to fight back & I’m sure I will. Thank you for your kind words dear ❤️😀

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      • CHRISTY ISTRATE

        Warm wishes and best of luck! You will! I will too! My pleasure! 😇

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  • alonebutnotlonely

    Everyone should read it because everyone has insecurities sometimes… Even super confident, strong people… Thanks for that lovely article ❤

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes ,we all have. And we must fight back & get over it. Thank you for reading dear ❤️😀

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  • Phonic Words

    Well said and written👍 Final Though is ultimate 👌

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much! Means a lot 😀❤️

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      • Phonic Words

        My pleasure 🙂 Sometimes living with insecurities is the only security!

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  • fortysomethingheyhey

    Reblogged this on Forty Something Life As We Know It and commented:
    Such a great post Accidental Blogger!

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  • ESP

    I feel secure already!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Haha! I am glad this made you feel secure already😜
      Thank you for reading 😀

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      • ESP

        🙂

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  • Gajanan K. Kshirsagar

    Very helpful. Extremely well written👍

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  • Sana

    It takes a lot of courage to accept our insecurities. But we need to.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      True that. We are afraid to accept our insecurities. But it’s the first step to get over those insecurities 😇
      Thank you for reading 😀

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      • Sana

        Yes, you’re right. And first step needless to say is the hardest. 🎈
        Everyone needs to read this. 🙂

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  • BeingAlive

    A v relevant and insightful talk👍🏻

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  • savitha's Blog

    Everyone has insecurities, no doubt. But to rise from those slowly and steadily is the key to being happy.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Exactly! It’s a slow & sometimes challenging process. The outcome of it is always amazing 💯❤️

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  • visionarytrailblazin

    Spot on! I enjoyed reading this.

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  • Piyush Choudhary

    Great post there Sumeet, valuable advice.

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  • itslifelyn

    Great one. Thanks.

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  • Amermaid'stale

    Your blog posts are always dope🙌

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  • Jessy B.

    Excellent post! I was speaking with a friend earlier today about insecurities. Wonderful advice

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    • Accidental Blogger

      That’s a great coincidence ,I must say. Thank you for reading 😀❤️

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      • Jessy B.

        How sweet! I found you on IG first, glad we connected here. I enjoy reading your blogposts 😊

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Yes 😇
          Me too ,glad to come across your blog 😀
          Thank you again

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  • Abhishek pathania

    Yes! Very valuable advice.
    We all have insecurities and we need to keep on working to overcome them. Your post will come handy to all.
    Thanks for writing this.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much Abhishek ! Means a lot to me 😇💯

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  • Chiru

    One of your great post buddy..
    Social medias are the seriously the major culprit..

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  • Accidental Blogger

    Thank you so much Chiru❤️❤️😇

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  • kyleoyier

    This is nice at least I have learned something.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m really glad to know you learned something from it.
      Thank you so much 😇

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  • Thought for Change

    We all have insecurities but we should never let it affect us and make us disheartened.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      So true, adithya❤️😇
      Thank you for reading 😇

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  • supriyamishra2511

    Amazed…
    And I’ve insecurity of embarrassing my friends by my madness, so I try avoiding our outing plans with other people(professional). I make sure that I have my friends Only.😁

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Hahaha ! You don’t need to worry about this insecurity. Because we are supposed to make our friends feel embarrassed 😜😂

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  • Chandni Asnani

    I LOVE THIS POST! While I was reading, sooo many of my insecurities flashed before my eyes. We are so stupid, we don’t even think and start downgrading ourselves. Like everyone’s having the time of their life, dining in 5 star restaurants, enjoying in some foreign country, etc etc etc. And we’re here, doing nothing at all. It’s all done for showoff, I don’t know, I just feel like that. 🤔

    I have so many insecurities, the one that tops the list is stage fear and participating in any kind of social thing, I just am afraid to talk. 😹 And the second one that is ruining my life is followers on social media. It’s soooo irritating to see other comic artists having millions of followers and me having none. 🙀 I start feeling worthless between such people, but I keep reminding myself from time to time that how does it matter? I’m doing it for my happiness, so why care about other people!

    Thankyou so much for penning down this very insightful and enlightening post, Sumeet. Glad I read this today. 😇😇

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Exactly ! Actually people are trying to show happy & better their life is on social media.
      I too have stage fear. But I’m trying my best to overcome it. Hopefully soon I’ll get over this fear .
      Thank you so much for this. Such kind words means a lot to me.
      ❤️❤️❤️

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      • Chandni Asnani

        Hehe, you surely will get over the stage fear. Best wishes from Firefly. ☺☺

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  • Chandan Sinha

    Great post mate! This is quite relevant in the recent times when are surrounded by FUD inducing factors. Good that people are coming forward to talk about the mental health now. We need to control ourselves from getting swayed by online sentiments. Thanks for writing this 🙂

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    • Accidental Blogger

      So true brother. I’m glad to know you liked it.
      Thank you so much 😇😇

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  • sanikakendhe

    Beautiful Mr. …♥️ Well said !!!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you Sanika !
      By the way I like this name Mr….😜

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      • sanikakendhe

        Ohhhhh.!!!
        That’s becoz I don’t know your name ..😅

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Hahaha !! Still I like this name 😂

          btw my name is sumeet

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          • sanikakendhe

            Okay ..
            MR. SUMEET 😁

  • Bushra's Lifestyle

    I am in total love of this post. Indeed all those superficial things do cause insecurity but sadly this is the trend for a lot of people in today’s era. I sometimes feel sorry for those who are in this situation without even knowing about it. Your writing style is awesome. Sorry, it took me a while to come to visit you. As kids and my husband restricted me and I was not allowed to sit on the computer during thanksgiving…LoL. It’s a pleasure meeting you here and I would like to thank you Vannessa who brought us together although you beat me by taking the first step. I thought I would be the first to visit all those blogs she mentioned in her post. Stay blessed!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      So true ! Many people have become victim of all these but have no idea about it.

      That’s totally okay . I’m sure you had great time with your family, this thanksgiving😇

      Thank you for visiting my blog.
      And yeah thanks to Vanessa too , who made us meet here.

      Have a great day 😇❤️

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  • Bushra's Lifestyle

    I bet you can handle and deal with them as your personality is coming out much stronger than you think.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Haha ! Partly true.
      I’m still dealing with a lot of them. But hopefully I’ll find my way to get through them.

      😇

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  • Shira Khiamti

    This was very insightful 🙂

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  • Nicculent

    MUCH needed.im the most insecure person, like, ever lol.im sure this will help.the thing about not comparing yourself to others is so hard, but so effective.love this post!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Haha , that’s okay.
      I’ve got my insecurities too.
      Yes , the main problem is comparing.
      That’s what needs to be stopped 😇

      Thank you ❤️

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  • Kranti

    Amazing.. loved this post..so true we all have some insecurities but we should not let our insecurities hold us back!!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      True that !
      Thank you so much dear 😇❤️

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      • Kranti

        My absolute pleasure dear ✨❤️

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  • Arushi

    Insightful post. I certainly think that the advice was thoroughly thought of.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much Arushi !
      Glad to know you liked it 😇

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      • Arushi

        😃no can not like your posts. They are pretty helpful.

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        • Accidental Blogger

          That’s so far sweet of you 😇

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          • Arushi

            😄

  • ablogforeverything

    Thanks for this post, I suffer from quite bad insecurities due to my past and this was a really good read x

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ! Glad to know you liked it 😀😀

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  • Manu Adams

    So true. Media is the major reason for insecurity.

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  • Pearl

    I’m glad I’ve visited this post. It’s very timely for me. I’ve been losing confidence for the last few weeks or months and having a hard time gaining it. Thanks for this!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m really glad to know this helped you.
      Thank you so much for reading
      😇❤️

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  • rajanisingh885721172

    Fabulous post

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  • fearlesskay

    I conquer 😊

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  • Lucy Anna Jackson

    Great post x

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  • Nameera

    I used to hate it when people conplimented me. Over the years, I realized it was linked to low confidence & being shy. I’m glad I’m over it now! The other thing that makes me super insecure is people knowing too much about me. I don’t like confiding in people. I don’t even write my secrets in a diary lest anyone should read it, my parents in particular. I don’t know why but I’ve always been secretive. Although metaphors & poems have become my escape in recent years. The last one is public speaking but I see it as more of a challenge & I’m hoping to work on it in the future. (:

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    • Accidental Blogger

      .___. That is exactly me…

      I too get uncomfortable when anyone compliments me.

      I’m also a mystery person lol
      I can totally feel you. We don’t like to share our secrets , they are better safe with us only 😜

      And guess what , I am also working towards public speaking. I’m okay with being a mystery person but presenting yourself confidently is a skill which I want to master😊

      Hopefully we will make it 😉

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      • Nameera

        Oh I’m sure we’ll make it!
        Once you’ve known what rock bottoms like, it becomes easy to analyse your strengths & weaknesses. 😀

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  • abetterman21

    Agree with the advice. Don’t compare yourself to others. Thanks for sharing

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    Touche. Outstanding arguments. Keep up the good effort.

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  • Sophia Ismaa

    Agree that society has imposed a timeline on each individual but it has failed to take into account the individual… I’m going to try the accepting reality thing, it’s definitely something I need to do lol. Great post and great advice!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes, exactly. Accepting reality is the most important thing we can do😊
      Thank you so much ♥️😊

      Reply
  • huguetta

    I believe the key is accepting yourself and loving yourself but while be aware that you should improve if you’re not satisfied, improve and do whatever makes you happy, but when doing so, you must do it for yourself, for your own satisfaction, not for others or to be a copy from someone…Each person is unique as fingerprints are…
    This is very interesting subject! Thanks for sharing 🙂

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Totally agreed. We must improve if we are not satisfied👌
      Thank you so much for reading & sharing your valuable response 😊

      Reply
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