Relationship Failure also called as Breakup, Heartbreak, is not really uncommon these days. Every person you meet already has experienced at least one Relationship Failure or Breakup. But have you ever wondered Why most relationships fail?
After a relationship failure, what most of the people do is complaining, blaming & holding their ex-partner responsible for it.
They will spend so much of time in rewinding & going back to past to remember what went wrong & how that person has hurt them.
Many spend so much time in Blaming, and complaining about their ex and how badly they hurt.
Actually, We all do it. But what we all don’t do is finding out the real reasons about why that relationship failed.
What’s Wrong ?
So, what’s wrong? Why we can’t find the real reasons behind it ?
Because we are busy blaming our ex.
Just ask someone “Why did you Breakup?”. You’ll get answers like “My ex cheated on me” or “My ex never treated me well” or “We fight too much so we decided to split up“, etc.
But these are not the real reasons behind that relationship failure.
Confused? Let me give an example
In case of cheating, the real reason is not your ex is a cheater. But your ex’s wants, needs or expectations were not getting fulfilled in that relationship.
Still not convinced? We will go deeper into the real reasons behind Relationship failures or Breakups.
2 Reasons Why Relationship Fails
1. Unfulfilled Wants
We humans have many wants, needs and desires. These wants differs from person to person.
Talking about romantic relationships, every person has two different types of wants as below
A person can have Physical Wants in a relationship like Physical Intimacy, Physical Presence, Spending time together, Going out, etc.
Now let’s look at Emotional Wants
Emotional Wants in a relationship can be Acceptance, Emotional Support, Being loved, etc.
So, how does these wants fails a relationship?
Let’s say Person A has physical wants like Intimacy, Presence and spending time with their partner. Here, the person A has physical wants.
But the Person B (A’s partner) wants are more inclined towards the emotional side which is exactly opposite from A’s wants.
As a result, wants of both person aren’t fulfilled. No one of them will be satisfied in that relationship. One must have to make sacrifices to make that relationship work.
And that’s how eventually a relationship fails due to unfulfilled wants of two people in a relationship.