Are you attached to something or someone?

Actually it’s such a silly question to ask. We all are attached to something. A lot of things actually. For example: Money , Clothes,Our house,Dreams, A friend, A loved one , etc ,etc.

But why this post’s title says “Stop getting attached?”

Attachment leads to disappointment ,depression & sadness.

Okay , let’s go deeper to understand about attachments & it’s effects.

What is attachment?

As I just said ,we all are attached to lot of things. Also to a lot of people too.

When I say someone is attached to money , it means that person gives importance to the money he/she has more than anything.

Or the most common attachment we all have experienced is attachment with our loved ones. In this kind of attachment one person does all he/she can to make sure that loved one stays. They are so afraid to even think about spending time without them.

And this is one of the main reason why many people are suffering from Loneliness, Sadness, Depression, Low self esteem, etc.

Why to stop getting attached?

Attachment is the source of all suffering – Buddha.

Yes ,it is the harsh truth. The more things we are attached to more we suffer.

Let’s take example of money again. If someone is attached to money then then that person will do anything to keep earning money. As the person is so attached to money he/she might choose wrong path just to get the money. Or if he/she loses money then you know what can happen to someone like that.

Another common example is attachment with a person. The reason why most of the people are not able to move on from their ex partners is Attachment. Yes , people are so attached that they can’t let go of that person even when things aren’t going as they want. All they want is to be with them.

When we get attached to something we open our self for hurt & disappointment. Attachment comes with a lot of expectations. And when they are not fulfilled we suffer.

Side effects of Attachment

  1. Low self esteem – Attachment makes you rely on something or someone else to make you happy which lowers self esteem.
  2. Lose focus – Due to attachment you put all your focus & energy on it by losing focus from many other important things in your life.
  3. Loneliness – When something to which you are attached isn’t there anymore for you, you get lonely.
  4. Low Self-confidence – As you are dependent on an external attachment to make yourself happy , you’ll end up losing self confidence once you lose what you’re attached to.

(I didn’t plan to start every side effect with “L” .)

How to stop getting attached?

To be honest , we can’t stop getting attached. It’s natural for all of us to get attached to a lot of things.

But how can we protect our self from getting hurt by it? Yeah , there are few ways.

  • Be Careful – You’ve to be careful whenever you feel like you’re getting attached to something/someone.
  • Ask Yourself – Ask yourself if it’s healthy for you before you get attached to anything. Take your time & think wisely.
  • Practice Solitude – Best skill anyone can have is “Learn to be happy alone”. Spend time alone & do things which you love to make yourself happy.
  • Chase Your Dreams – Stop chasing meaningless attachments. Instead chase your dreams. Work consistently for it & turn them into reality.

Final Words

The less attached you are, the more peaceful you are.

I hope this post makes you understand why attachment is the source of suffering. Everything I’ve written in this post is based on my true experience. It took a lot of time for me to understand all this.

I don’t support detaching yourself from anything or anyone. Because it’s impossible & also unhealthy. We all have to stop relying on the attachments. So whenever you lose that attachment , you don’t lose yourself.

What are your thoughts on Attachments?

Also , Is the post too long?Should I write smaller posts?

Do let me know this in comment section below.

Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ™‚


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117 thoughts to “Stop Getting Attached

  • Ananya

    I agree with all your points.. It’s realky important to learn and practice solitude..we should kearn how to be happy alone..great thoughts

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes , it’s a must skill anyone could have. Thank you so much for reading..๐Ÿ˜ƒ

      Btw , I’m not able to access your website. Do check if there’s any problem ๐Ÿ™‚

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      • Ananya

        Yeahh its a must..
        I mean in which way.. opening my website like visiting it?

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Yes ,i can’t visit it.
          Check if your site address is correct

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          • Ananya

            Ohh..let me check

            Its ananyastudios.wordpress.com
            Pls search , I will check again..you too check..if still not able to open let me know..

          • Accidental Blogger

            Oh ,damn. You put wrong site address on your profile as “ananyastudios.com” instead of “ananyastudios.wordpress.com”.
            Go to profile & change site address to correct one ๐Ÿ˜‡

          • Ananya

            Oops! Okay๐Ÿ˜„..I will do it..Thnxxx๐Ÿ˜Š

          • intentforcontent

            I had that same problem trying to follow you!๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜‡

          • Accidental Blogger

            Me or ananya? ๐Ÿ˜…

          • intentforcontent

            It was ananya๐Ÿ˜

          • Accidental Blogger

            Gotcha

          • Ananya

            Ohh..Sorry..I hope it’s ok now

          • Accidental Blogger

            Yes , it’s alright

          • Ananya

            ๐Ÿ‘

  • Words from Eliah

    Great words of wisdom! We get too easily attached to things that are too easily detaching us from God!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Such a great point you made here. Thank you for your valuable comment
      ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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  • Katherine

    Very good post, but I just wonder sometimes… If being so apart from the ones beside you will make you get somewhere.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you Katherine.๐Ÿ˜€
      No we don’t need to get detached. It’s just we need to be aware of what we attached to.

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      • Katherine

        Hmm, really good thought!
        ๐Ÿ˜€

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  • saymber

    Thank you. This lesson is one of the reasons that learning more about Buddhism appealed to me, it makes so much sense!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      As a Buddhist , it’s really glad to know that you’re interested in Buddhism. ๐Ÿ˜‡
      Thank you so much for reading ๐Ÿ™‚

      Reply
  • Anonymous

    The thing about attachment is that you are not even attached to the thing or the person. You are attached to their presence, you are attached to the memories. It’s when these are taken away, that you realize the loss. It’s then that you can’t help but despair.

    Good realization, but don’t let that make you not attached to anyone around you. Attachments have their own pros and cons. Make the right judgement, do what your heart says. Just don’t get too attached. Too much of anything is bad for us.

    Oh and of course great post!! Keep writing, as I, your fan, awaits your next amazing post ..๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜

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    • Accidental Blogger

      This is such a great message. Thank you so much for this valuable comment.โค๏ธ

      I agree that attachment has pros & cons. And I don’t support detachment .
      We must find the right balance ๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡

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      • Anonymous

        yep, definitely!

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  • Optimistic Soul

    Fabulous post ! Just your best !
    (Long? Not at all it’s perfect )

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ,Meera๐Ÿ˜‡โค๏ธ

      Reply
  • Chiru

    Amazing post yar..
    yes the loneliness is true..when u r attached to some one one day without then leads to loneliness and thatโ€™s worse..
    Your post are not long itโ€™s apt.. keep it as it is..

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Exactly & many people are suffering due to this.
      And thank you so much ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ

      Reply
  • BeingAlive

    It is a perfect post๐Ÿ’
    Summarizing the whole about our strings of attachment n their side effects โ˜บ

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much , being alive ๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡โค๏ธ

      Reply
  • Amermaid'stale

    Great feed!
    I enjoyed reading the line you wrote within brackets, after side effects of attachment๐Ÿ˜‰

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Haha , Thank you Kajal๐Ÿ˜œ
      It was not intentional .I realised while writing last side effect ๐Ÿ˜‚

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  • Na Mirea

    I donโ€™t find your posts too long. And while I agree that attachment can be tricky, I believe that getting detached can be even worse. Maybe we should just try to find middle ground:)

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much Na. Exactly , you shouldn’t get too much detached from the world.
      But you’ve to be careful before you get attached to anything. ๐Ÿ˜‡

      Reply
  • Ananya

    Amazing post! Its not too long its not too short..Its perfect.. loved reading itโ€ฆlooking forward for more such posts..๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜

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  • Kranti

    I completely agree detachment is the key to find the inner peace!! Great post ๐Ÿ˜Š

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes ,we should detach our self time & again to find peace within.
      Thank you so much, kranti๐Ÿ˜‡โค๏ธ

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      • Kranti

        โค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜Š

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  • Sameera

    Umm! Attachment do hurt and I agree they are the source of suffering. But I think we all nothing without these attachments. I mean it in a good way. And in the end it comes to us to expect less from people and understand why they leave at times. It is important to channelize feelings rather than controlling them. So get attached but learn that it’s your ability to find love that makes a bond stronger..so when thinks break let them be. You walk ahead because eventually each one of us is going to die alone.๐Ÿ’™

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Exactly. We must be able to let go of the attachments instead of clinging onto them once they’re gone.

      I don’t support or encourage full detachment. I was gonna clear this at the end of my post but I forgot as I was thinking if this is getting too long.

      But I’ve updated the post just to make sure it doesn’t give any wrong message.

      Thank you for your valuable response ,Ms. Fire๐Ÿ”ฅ

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      • Sameera

        Good things have all the rights to be lengthy!๐Ÿ˜€
        Now the post seems to be complete. Yipeee!
        Pleasure all mine Mr. Jaandu๐Ÿ‘ฝ

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Thank you for making me complete it ๐Ÿ˜‡โค๏ธ

          Jaaanndduu ๐Ÿ‘ฝ

          Reply
  • Thought for Change

    But our attachments are what makes us human. I do think it’s bad if we cross the limits. So yes we should always ask ourselves on our attachments.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes , they do. But anything beyond limit is always bad.
      So we gotta keep the balance right ๐Ÿ˜Š

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  • Arushi

    Attachments are something which is involuntary but yes if your brain is rational enough then we can control ourselves when it comes to attachments.
    Great post Sumeet! ๐Ÿ’“

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    • Accidental Blogger

      So true โค๏ธ
      Thank you so much for your valuable comment ,Arushi๐Ÿ˜Š

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      • Arushi

        Anytime.โ˜บ

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  • csprasath

    Nice Write up !! Can i say attachment refers to Obssessed with something ??

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you โค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜Š
      Yes , obsession is peak level of attachment๐Ÿ˜…

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  • Euphrates.

    Relevant idea.

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  • Reco Mouse

    Love this, keep writing your mind! Good posts!

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  • quotes

    Yeah … I’m also attached to someone๐Ÿ˜”….
    In last days I’m in depression due to this…
    I love him soooo much… i dont forget him๐Ÿ˜”… & how do I forget him … how cuz I love him soo much๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘

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    • Accidental Blogger

      That’s the side effect of too much attachment.
      But it’s okay ,I hope you get over it soon. If you need some advice for it do read my previous posts about it ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

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      • quotes

        Yeah it’s a side effect…
        Bhtt mushkil h bhoolna..

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Ab mushkil hai ,dheere dheere aasan hojayega๐Ÿ˜‰

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          • quotes

            Ptaa nii kb๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜’

          • quotes

            Really mn bht disappointed hu…
            & sometimes I’m saying… death hurry up plzzzz

          • Accidental Blogger

            Hey hey , don’t ever say like this. You have so much better people in your life & also better things to do.
            So don’t waste your time on someone who’s not there with you ,Tooba ๐Ÿ˜‡

          • quotes

            ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

          • quotes

            Prblm yeh h k mn usko btaya e nii k … I like him๐Ÿ˜Œ

          • Accidental Blogger

            Are yar, bata do na phir. Kiska intezar hai๐Ÿ˜…

          • quotes

            Will u send me ur mail id.. I will text u separately there on hangouts..
            Q k hmari comments spammed h๐Ÿ˜…

      • quotes

        Sure… I read all ur posts๐Ÿ˜Š

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Thank you so much โค๏ธ

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          • quotes

            U r more than welcome for these great posts…๐Ÿ˜
            For such motivational posts .. Sumeet

          • Accidental Blogger

            Bohat jaldi ๐Ÿ˜‡
            Thank you so much, means a lot..
            What’s your name btw

          • quotes

            Welcome ๐Ÿ˜Š

          • quotes

            Tooba๐Ÿ˜„

  • PostiveCorner

    Agree, i can relate to attachment to a person from my recent experience, my solution was increase self love. tho attachment is inevitable, but enough self love and confidence we can also learn to detach healthily.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      That’s great. Self love & confidence is best way to overcome attachments.
      Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ

      Reply
  • K.A.L.T

    This post was a really great read! Honestly, I feel that getting too attached to people is the same as letting others chain you down. Even if it was not their intention. As you said, one can lose focus of their own goals due to excessive focus being placed on the person you have become attached to. Since you have become so attached said person, you want to help him or her in any way possible. Everytime he or she helps you instead, you may feel like a burden and your self-esteem is lowered. You also lose confidence in your ability to do things yourself. When left alone, you can also no longer feel at ease. You have gotten too attached, too used to being around the other person that you cannot enjoy being alone as you once didโ€ฆ Or perhaps it is just me. Anyways, I never want my being alone to be so painful ever again so Iโ€™ve already learned to not get too attached to people. Iโ€™m friendly with others but do not pry too much into their lives. The more I know, the more I care and get attachedโ€ฆ the more it hurts when they leave. Even without having to worry about others there are lots of things I want to do myself.
    Howeverโ€ฆ saying that we should not get attached because it would hurt after is just an escape. Even if it hurts, Iโ€™m sure that there are some people whom we would still have wanted to get close to even if it hurts afterwardsโ€ฆ Or perhaps Iโ€™ve just watched too much anime. XD
    Anyways like I said at the start of my comment, this is a great post and honestly, the length is definitely not too long haha XD
    Especially when it is such a good read ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Love this comment. I feel like this should be in my post๐Ÿ˜…
      A great way to summarize my post. By the way I also have learnt not to get attached easily after being hurt due to my previous attachments.

      Thank you so much for reading & sharing your thoughts โค๏ธโค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‡

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      • K.A.L.T

        Really glad you find that my comment is meaningful enough for you to want it to be in your post XD
        Not sure if I should be the one suggesting this but you could have like a featured comment or something in your posts when you feel that there is a comment that really strikes you haha XD
        Like how YouTube has those pinned comments. Well just an idea haha, it’s your choice what to do with your blog. XD
        (sorry I have a habit of using XD)

        That’s good, we should choose wisely who we get attached to. Right now… I feel that I’ll only try to get close to those who try to get close to me. Like really try. Try even though I do not show any interest in getting closer instead of giving up and simply get comfortable with the fact that I do not like to hang out with others. Perhaps it’s stupid of me but right now I’m living pretty okay just being friendly with others while maintaining my personal space thanks to me not getting to close or attached to anyone.

        You’re welcome and thank you for posting posts that really make me think ๐Ÿ™‚
        Would not be able to write lengthy replies to posts that do not really get me thinking haha XD

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Haha ,I wish I could highlight your comments. I’ll check if that is possible.

          Glad to know you’re doing great with maintaing your personal space.

          You’re most welcome. Thank you for all your valuable comments which encourages me to write more & more

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          • K.A.L.T

            Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚
            and it’s a pleasure commenting/chatting with you ^^

  • parikhitdutta

    Although I would like to agree but wouldn’t we be just another lost soul without any attachment. I do believe in solitude and I happen to be one solitary soul who loves solitude over anything but I do need my attachment too. It just makes everything nicer. Agreed, at the end of the day we are by ourselves, we come alone, leave alone but may be in the journey of life a little attachment and not excess of it could be harmless. As long as it doesn’t wreck us. ๐Ÿ˜€

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes , it’s true.
      But the post is actually written for those who get attached to easily to anything. So what I want to convey is to think before you get attached.

      Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ˜‡

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      • parikhitdutta

        Ah okay. Yes, easy and quick attachment can be quite dangerous.

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  • Akshaya Thulasi

    Aww !! Great post as well as much needed one
    Thanks for sharing this valuable one
    Keep sharing ๐Ÿ’™

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much Akshayaโค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

      Reply
  • Abhishek pathania

    Great post bro. We shouldn’t let attachments be our weakness. You’ve summarized the whole idea very precisely. Keep writing such awesome posts!

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  • PERKY

    So carefully you penned this Post Sumeet! Even remaining neutral is tough thing indeed isn’t it?

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you๐Ÿ˜€.
      Yes , it’s really tough thing to do .

      Reply
  • iScriblr

    A valuable, thought provoking post for sure!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š
      What is your name btw?

      Reply
  • Sunshinysa

    I get too attached. I need to be emotionally smarter ๐Ÿ˜‹

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  • intentforcontent

    Very true! especially about money Iโ€™ve seen peopleโ€™s attachment to having it has caused them so much trouble…enjoyed readingโค๏ธ

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  • Dawn Renee

    “….for even pleasant feelings are suffering by virtue of change;that is, though pleasant at the moment, they bear within them the seed of insecurity, of their own imminent destruction.The introspectively discovered Truth of Suffering is one of ceaseless movement, of a dynamic process which is suffering by virtue of being uncontrollable, ever-changing, and therefore inadequate and unsatisfying.” – “Founders of Faith” (pertaining to Buddha’s quest) That being said, you are correct, healthy attachments balance suffering. They enable us to cherish life (such as when we have those deep belly laughs with loved ones). Good times remind us to be where we are at that moment. And sometimes change is good and welcomed. Sometimes everything can contradict itself. Your post isn’t too long. My comment is. Even if a person recieves only the gist of something well-written & well-intended, it plants a good seed.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much for this precious comment. It means a lot to me.
      True that , planting that sees is my only goal ๐Ÿ˜‰
      Have a great day ahead
      ๐Ÿ˜‡โค๏ธ

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  • Nabeela

    Nice postโ€ฆ.

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  • Riman Ray

    You explained it very well..
    Agreed.

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  • Accidental Blogger

    Glad to know that you agree . Thank you so much ๐Ÿ˜‡โค๏ธ

    Reply
  • Zaroya

    Okay so I second you on everything you said but honestly speaking not getting attached to someone is not that easy, even if you tell yourself that no you don’t need that one best friend of yours or that friend you share a cigarette with every evening, you’ll surely feel their absence when they’ll leave. It’s just that I find it almost impossible not to get attached with anyone like that.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      True. It’s really tough when you try not to get attach to someone.
      Whenever we try hard not to do something ,we end up doing what we didn’t want.

      All I want to say is don’t get attached too easily. I’ve seen people who gets attaches to anything/anyone quickly which results in hurt.

      So we all have to be careful before we get attached.

      Thank you for reading & sharing your opinion.
      Have a great day Zaroya! ๐Ÿ˜€

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      • Zaroya

        Yeah I agree.
        JazakAllah for considering me. Much love and appreciation for your work ^_^

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Thank you so much Zaroya๐Ÿ˜‡โค๏ธ
          Nice to come across your blog
          ๐Ÿ˜€

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          • Zaroya

            Thank you so much. You’re too kind โค

  • Stacy

    My posts are waaaaaay longer than yours ๐Ÿ˜‚. Honestly my longest post ever is 6,000+ words and it has gotten the most views ever of all my posts on my blog, so I am convinced at this point that if the story is engaging enough, people will keep reading, and they wonโ€™t be bothered by the length. I do believe that there should be a story aspect to the post if it is going to be very long though. Not that the whole thing is a story, but that a story runs like a current under your writing. Does that make sense?

    That being said I do actually try hard to keep my posts to 2400 or less as my team and I have set that as a guideline. Sometimes I cheat and go a little over ๐Ÿ˜… I have a lot to say…

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    • Accidental Blogger

      So true ! Length doesn’t matter , what’s written in the post does.

      Actually, my recent post is even longer than this one. And I’ve realized it too that length doesn’t matter.

      Thank you for sharing experience Stacy ๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡โค๏ธ

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  • anjanasundariyer

    Simply awesome words (actual facts)โ€ฆ Miracle post by an accidental writerโ€ฆ Keep writing..

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  • hintsforhappyliving

    Second each of your point. So true!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Glad to know you liked it. Thank you so much ๐Ÿ˜Šโ™ฅ๏ธ

      Reply
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