Hello Everyone!

Lets start with few questions .

When was the last time you did something to make yourself happy?

When was the last time you made yourself proud?

When was the last time when you were happy with yourself?

I know , you find it hard to remember. Because we often focus on pleasing others or taking care of others. Actually we are taught to please others from our childhood. There are many people who are trying to please others & expecting others to do same for them.

No one has ever taught us to love our self. If we did then it is termed as an act of selfishness. We have been taught selfishness is a bad quality.

Intent behind writing this blog is to make you a selfish person(Don’t worry ,I will try to make you Good selfish).

Why Make Yourself Happy ?

We humans are too busy in pleasing people around us , seeking attention & validation from others to be happy. But do we really need others to be happy?

A big fat NO, You can be happy by yourself. It sounds hard ,doesn’t it?

We spend too much of our energy in pleasing others ,seeking attention & validation from others ( Yeah , I’m typing the same again & again). This same energy we can use to do something for our self. Something which will be beneficial for our personal growth.

There is something which we want to do , which makes happy .But we fail to identify that thing. Because we never ask our self about what makes us happy.

When we are busy doing things to make others happy we are wasting our precious time. We are depending on that person to be happy. Other people will be responsible for your happiness.

But Why to depend on others for your happiness ?

Why to give key to your happiness to others?

Instead try to be happy with yourself. Depend on your self to be happy. Because there is no one else who knows what you want & what makes happy than YOU.

How To Start ?

  1. Ask : First thing you need to do is Ask yourself “What makes me happy?”, “What is that one thing I always wanted to do but never tried ?” , “What makes me proud of myself?”. It can be anything like Scoring an A in your college , Spending time with your Family ,Staying healthy ,Working out every morning ,etc.
  2. Take action : When you know what makes you happy ,start taking action towards it. Work hard on it. Make time for it. We often complain about not having time to do the things we want to. STOP COMPLAINING RIGHT NOW. If you really want to do something , you’ll find time for it. Ask yourself “How do I spend my day ?” “How much time do I waste in doing something which isn’t helping you grow in any aspect?” When you honestly answer you’ll find where you are wasting your time.
  3. Be Consistent : Consistency is key to perfection. Without constant efforts you will never be able to succeed. Nothing can be achieved over a night or a month or a year. You’ve to put efforts daily & do better than previous day. It will be hard at the beginning as you are changing yourself. But with time you’ll develop habit of working everyday. And you’ll reach the point where one day off from that thing will make disappointed & sad.
  4. Take Breaks : Don’t take 3rd one too seriously. You are a Human. You don’t need to drain your energy daily. So don’t get too much motivated to do something. Take breaks . Go out for a small vacation with your family/friends. Go watch the movie you love. Reward yourself with things you love.

Final Words :

I hope from this moment you’ll start asking yourself about what makes you happy & start taking action towards it.

I hope you stop pleasing others & seeking attention from others( once again) & start pleasing yourself and giving your full attention to yourself.

You become the solution for you. Don’t point to another
person and say, “Now you owe me and you need to give me
more.” Instead, give more to yourself. Take time off to give to
yourself, and in a sense to fill yourself up to fullness, to where
now you can overflow in giving. – The Secret

Thank you for reading πŸ™‚

Have A Great Day ! ❀


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68 thoughts to “Make Yourself Happy :)

  • shalini

    Good post. Answer to the questions is – Everyday

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    • Accidental Blogger

      That’s the answer I wanted to hear 😊
      Thank you πŸ˜ƒβ€

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  • Unbreakable Queen

    Wonderful post!

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  • zeesviews

    Yes its Okay to become selfish sometimes coz if we are not happy..we cannot make others happy..really a profound thought dearπŸ˜‡β˜ΊοΈ

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes ,exactly. We must choose our self before anyone else.

      Thank you so much for reading πŸ˜ƒβ€

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      • zeesviews

        Thanks for sharingπŸ™

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        • Accidental Blogger

          You’re welcome πŸ˜ƒ
          What’s your name btw?πŸ˜€

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          • zeesviews

            Jass
            What’s yours??

          • Accidental Blogger

            Nice name , Jass. Mine is Sumeet πŸ˜€

          • zeesviews

            Hi Sumeet😜

          • Accidental Blogger

            Hello Jass ! Where are you from πŸ˜€

          • zeesviews

            I’m from punjab..
            these days in Canada☺️

          • Accidental Blogger

            Kanneda huh?😁
            That’s great ✌

          • zeesviews

            Yeah.. where r you from??

          • Accidental Blogger

            I’m from Pune ,India.

  • supriyamishra2511

    Nice post..
    And it’s a big deal πŸ˜‰πŸ‘

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ,Supriya JiπŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒβ€

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  • Vishnu

    I think every single act we do mentally and emotionally is aimed at making ourselves happy and peaceful, even if it might sound selfish…

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes! It should not be called as selfish unless it is harming someone else.

      Thank you for readingπŸ˜ƒ

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      • Vishnu

        Yep.
        N everyone is selfish beyond a point. Rule of nature.

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Yes.But we are selfish for pleasures & momentary happiness.
          Instead we should be selfish for our dreams & long term happiness πŸ˜ƒ

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          • Vishnu

            The difference between them changes with perspectives πŸ˜‰

  • Thought for Change

    This was a very very nice post. I loved it.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you ,Adithya ❀.
      Glad you liked it πŸ˜€

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  • adityasemwal02

    True…. you can make others happy only once u yourself are happy…

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Perfectly said !

      Thank you so much for reading πŸ˜ƒβ€

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  • saymber

    One of the hardest things I’ve had to learn and am still learning each new day is what makes me happy. It is hard because “it” changes from day to day! So many different factors are hinged on happiness. Is it happiness or contentment we truly seek?

    what will make me happy in Simple Gematria equals: 222/6/3 cycle
    happy in Simple Gematria equals: 66/12/6/3 cycle
    happiness is fleeting in Simple Gematria equals: 213/6/3 cycle
    = 501/6/3 cycle
    (https://www.gematrix.org/?word=happy)
    contentment in Simple Gematria equals: 143/8/4/2/1

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    • Accidental Blogger

      So true ! It’s hard to know what makes us happy. That’s why we should know our self completely so that we can live life to the fullest.

      Hey ,I didn’t get gematria calculations. Would you explain it to me ? It seems interesting πŸ˜€

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      • saymber

        The Gematria calculations are basically assigning the alphabet a number, 1-26. Then you break down words into numeric values. For example happy = 66. Then you can add up the values of each word in a sentence to come to a total value and sometimes it’s very interesting. Sometimes things come out to what I call a cycle, like the word happy itself comes out to a cycle. Break down 66 to 6 + 6 = 12. Then 1 + 2 = 3. If you divide 3 by 2 you get 1.5 which is 6 again, then 3. You always come back to 3 so I consider it a cycle. I use a calculator or the gematria online calculator if I have long phrases I want to consider. I have been using this system to riddle through questions I have, mysteries all sorts of things. I started using it when I was having severe anxiety and trust issues. This came to me without my knowing what it was that I was doing. It helped me. I didn’t trust anything or anyone but something told me may be numbers might be something I could. I hope this makes sense.

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  • Random Repeat

    Reblogged this on .

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  • Minnie

    We all need to focus on our own lives first, because we are the only ones who can do it for ourselves. Taking care of others is secondary, after we ourselves are stable. You have written a very thoughtful post which I’m sure will spark realization in many; great work!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes ,exactly that’s my point. I totally agree with you πŸ™‚
      Thank you so much for reading & sharing your opinion ❀

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  • Rumpy's Kitty Siblings

    πŸ˜€

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  • Riman Ray

    This one’s nice, sumeet.
    I don’t know the last time when I was happy whole heartedly…but yes…am trying everyday to be happy.
    Keep writing!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I know it’s hard but you’ve to choose yourself before anyone from now πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ
      Thank you so much β€πŸ˜ƒ

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      • Riman Ray

        You’re welcome πŸ™‚

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  • frangipani loving tropical lady sipping jasmine tea

    This is a great post,well written.thank you!

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  • frangipani loving tropical lady sipping jasmine tea

    It is only when we make ourselves happy are we able to truely serve others with our best version of ourselves….reblogging this!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Exactly !!! thank you so much for reading & sharing your opinion β€πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ

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  • revolutionarymusings

    You can’t love others until you have mastered loving yourself; great post

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Right πŸ’―
      Thank you so much πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ

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  • Chemical-Free Savvy

    Making our selves happy is not being selfish , it’s a necessity. Nice post. πŸ™‚

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yessss ,Be selfish✌❀
      Thank you so much πŸ™‚

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  • Saania2806

    I love this post! We should always learn how to make ourselves happy first, because beauty is when you can appreciate yourself.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      True that !!!
      Thank you so much for reading ❀

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      • Saania2806

        You’re most welcome!

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  • Jyo

    Loved reading it…

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  • Abhishek pathania

    This is a great reminder for all of us. Thanks for writing this, Sumeet πŸ‘

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  • Train Today to Reap Tomorrow

    I am always happy except when things I can not change then I change my thoughts and become happy again.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes ! What you think you become ✌
      Thank you for reading πŸ˜‹

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  • Anjali Patel

    Wonderful post ❀️
    Sahi hai…..ek dam…

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ,AnjaliπŸ˜€β€β€

      Reply
  • HappiSteph

    I couldn’t agree more with your beautiful words. I too strongly believe that you are the only person who can make yourself truly happy! This is my mission to make people realise of all the potential happiness they have hidden in them. Continue the good work Accidental Blogger!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m glad we both share the same mission of making people realise the real happiness lies inside.

      Thank you so much for your kind words & All the best β€πŸ˜ƒ

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  • witasarmah

    To This one post of urs i can proudly say that i dont do anything to please others. I work or sleep or read or cook or watever for my happiness.. I can proudly say i am selfish types

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    • Accidental Blogger

      That’s great. We always should take care of our selves first.

      keep it up dear πŸ˜ƒβ€
      Thank you for reading πŸ™‚

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      • witasarmah

        πŸ‘πŸ’•

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  • thebloggingsarah

    Great post! Thanks for sharing! I need to work on this too!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m sure you’ll. Thank you for reading πŸ˜ƒβ€

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  • Rabindranath Pradhan

    A great post. Happiness is our choice.

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