Hello Everyone !
From last few weeks this thought has been going on my mind. Everyday I keep observing people getting obsessed with love & relationships.
So I thought why not write an article on this topic.
Lets start!
People this days perceive love/relationships as the most important & essential thing in Life.
Why I feel Love is Overrated ? You’ll get my point when you finish reading this post.
What Do I Mean By Love Is Overrated?
When I say that love/relationships is overrated what I mean is the way these things have been portrayed is misleading in so many ways.
Whether it is books or movies or music, they all love look like the only important thing in your life. Even though they don’t it directly but somehow makes us believe that love is the only thing that can fulfill your life. And it’s such a toxic thought to believe in.
I’m not against love or the beauty of it. The idea of romantic love has been romanticised so much that people pretends to be in love. Because they feel like they are missing out by not being in a relationship. Being single is considered as an uncool thing in this generation.
So many of youngsters confuses infatuation and physical attarctions as love and once they actually get into a relationship, they can’t handle it. This is the reason why most teen relationships ends horribly.
Who Made Love Overrated?
1. Movies
Movies or Web series puts great impact on its viewers. Whatever we watch in Movies we often tend to believe in it. Also we want things shown in it to happen with us. We love watching Romantic movies.
If you are an Indian then Congrats , you will find a love story in ever genre of movies. What’s wrong with love stories is Love is shown as the one & only end goal. Love is glorified as the most purest & important thing in life.
So most of the indian kids grow up with a fantasy of bollywood type love story to happen in their real life.
2. Ads
Not only movies now a days in Advertisements also you can find a love story.
For eg: By using A perfume you’ll get a girlfriend. What?
Can you see what’s happening here ? They know how to fool people by showing a little love story in their ads. You see that? We are literally bombarded with these fake love stories everywhere.
Even if someone is living a happy single life will end up questioning themselves if they are missing out on something by not being in a romantic relationship.
3. Social Media

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You must have seen this kind of quotes on social media like Facebook, Instagram, etc.
Social media has made Relationship as a status symbol. If you are single then you are often understood as Unattractive ,Uninteresting & Uncool.
What Everyone Needs To Know About Love
1. Movies aren’t real
As I said earlier in movies, the only goal actor has in a movie is to marry the girl. For this he does everything he can. He fights, gets beaten by gangsters, kills people with one kick, gifts moon to his love ( Too much here).
Guys please understand this isn’t real. By watching this kind of things in movies , people imitate the actor in real life. When they get into a relationship they start doing everything they can just to make other person happy. In this they lose their self worth , self respect & everything they have.
2. You Don’t Need Anyone To Complete You
It Takes A Million People To Complete The World, But It only Takes One To Complete Mine (Source: Google)
Yes , you’ve read it before. This is the most stupid misconception we have. Nobody can make you complete but You. You were born as an individual.
You were born as a complete person. You didn’t need anyone else to complete you. So, stop obsessing over thought of finding someone to complete you.
3. Your Personal Goals Are Important
People tend to lose their focus from their goals once they get into relationship. They make their relationship as one & only goal. And starts believing that only thing they need in life is Love.
Also read: Does Love Distract You From Your Goals?
No , I’m not against love. I’m against the wrong idea of love. Making sacrifices for your love is needed but while doing this never let your own life get affected. Never stop chasing your personal goals.
Stop waiting for someone to come in your life & make you happy. There are many single people out there who feels insecure ,inferior & sad just because they are single.
Every single guy/girl reading this ,stop looking for love. Use this time in improving yourself. Start working on your goals. Enjoy life to the fullest & keep working on yourself.
Final Words On Is Love Overrated
Hopefully now you know why I feel love is overrated.
I want to make it clear that , I’m not against Love/Relationships. I’m against the wrong ideology about relationships & love.
Because there are many examples of people ruining their own life due to these misconceptions about Love.
So guys , love by keeping your eyes open.
Love as hard as can & start with “Yourself”.
Thank you for reading !
I’d love to know your opinion on this topic. Comment box is open for your thoughts & views. 😉
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I’ll be happy to talk with you about anything .
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September 13, 2018 at 10:18 am
Good one dude !
September 13, 2018 at 10:28 am
Thank you , dude 😉❤
September 13, 2018 at 10:30 am
Totally agreed!
September 13, 2018 at 11:03 am
I’m glad you can relate to it 😊❤
Thank you for reading 😃
September 13, 2018 at 11:22 am
Pleasure is mine reading your post!
September 13, 2018 at 10:40 am
Everything is just business nowdays….It all depends upon perespection and self thought .
September 13, 2018 at 11:05 am
So true Brother. Thank you for reading 😊❤
September 13, 2018 at 10:41 am
Agreeeeeeed!!
Nice post sumit!
September 13, 2018 at 11:06 am
Thank you so much ,Riman 😃❤
Btw it’s * Sumeet*
😉
September 13, 2018 at 11:32 am
Oh…am so sorry.
September 13, 2018 at 11:47 am
Hehehe , its okay dear😉
September 13, 2018 at 8:19 pm
So that’s your real name huh?
September 14, 2018 at 5:37 am
Haha ,yes.
How is it ?😂
September 14, 2018 at 6:23 am
Lol, it’s kinda dharmik😂
September 14, 2018 at 6:25 am
Do we have a God named “Sumeet”?
September 14, 2018 at 6:32 am
Idk, but it feels like someone with-no-sins kind of person…and that’s my perspective
September 14, 2018 at 6:36 am
Haha , this might be true at some extent.😁
What Sumeet means is “A good friend” .
September 14, 2018 at 6:48 am
That you are….well atleast you’re a good acquaintance
September 14, 2018 at 6:55 am
Thank you !
I’m glad we met , would love to get to know you more 😊
September 14, 2018 at 8:22 am
Same here buddy😃
September 14, 2018 at 9:48 am
❤😃
September 14, 2018 at 3:02 pm
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September 14, 2018 at 4:01 pm
Please send me the link again. And I’m flattered To be nominated, I have one query though…Can we nominate the person who nominates us?
September 14, 2018 at 7:04 pm
I guess you’ve found the post.
You deserve it 😃🏆
No , you can’t because he/she is already nominated.
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September 13, 2018 at 10:45 am
Agreed at some extent
September 13, 2018 at 11:06 am
I’m glad to know you agree with me , Thank you for reading 😀
September 13, 2018 at 11:12 am
The so called love is also not real. Its only an attraction towards the opposite gender.
September 13, 2018 at 11:27 am
Exactly !
This can be called as Infatuation .Also imitating what others are doing .
Thank you for reading 😃
September 13, 2018 at 12:00 pm
Welcome.
September 13, 2018 at 11:14 am
Hey, I agree with you to some extent.
Finding love on Tinder, Facebook and other dating site is quite hard I believe but hey that’s my opinion 🙂
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Movies aren’t real : AGREED
I think now-a-days definition of love has changed and it has been defined as per as movies or daily soaps but then 20 years back it was defined by Shahrukh khan movies.
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We don’t need anyone to complete us : AGREED
I mean after falling in love we don’t get extra hand or eyes or something – We were born complete (I’m telling you these SRK movies)
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Personal goals are important : NOT SO MUCH
One shouldn’t change after falling in love (maybe a little bit). Your partner should love the way you are and you should also do the same thing (not one sided). However for relationships one may change their goals based on situation (Adaptation – Darwin Theory to survive) and if you do that for your partner without he/she asked you then it is Love.
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Stop waiting for someone that can make you happy : AGREED
Waiting for someone to be happy doesn’t mean LOVE that is called ARRANGE MARRIAGE (pun intended).
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I would say LOVE is not overrated, it never was. However, if one is loving someone to seek companionship or be happy, then maybe one has understood the definition of LOVE wrong.
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Nice POST!
September 13, 2018 at 11:23 am
I’m so glad to read this comment.
What I mean by personal goals is :
Some people lose focus from their goals like career ,dreams ,etc and spend too much time in their toxic relationships.
That’s what I said at the end of blog , I’m not against love. I’m not calling ” Love ” as overrated.
The misconceptions people have makes it overrated for me. The wrong idea of love is overrated.
Thank you so much for reading 😃😭
September 13, 2018 at 11:29 am
Yes, that’s what..I agree with you. “The wrong idea of love is overrated”
(I was just answering your question in the end as your blog title says “Is LOVE overrated?” 🙂 🙂 )
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Very nicely written! In future, I will keep visiting your website again and again for some good content. Keep writing! 🙂
September 13, 2018 at 11:33 am
Oh ! 😀
Thank you so much for all the kind words ❤❤😃
It’s really great meeting you here. Looking forward to read more from you too ❤💯
September 13, 2018 at 11:17 am
Hi! Recently started reading your blog and loved it!
Your title holds very true. Who knew an Accident would churn out such a great blogger!
Welcome to the blogosphere!
Are you a song of ice and fire fan?
September 13, 2018 at 11:25 am
Wow , this means a lot.
Haha ,true who knew😂
But no , I’m not great blogger. I’m just expressing my unexpressed thoughts here .
Thank you so much.
No ,i haven’t heard that. Will check it
September 13, 2018 at 11:31 am
I am fan of “Song of ICE and FIRE” 🙂
September 13, 2018 at 11:36 am
And I am ADDICTED!
September 13, 2018 at 11:37 am
Waiting for 2019!!!! “WINTER HAS COME” 😀
September 13, 2018 at 11:45 am
Wow ,sounds cool.
Need to check it now 😉
September 13, 2018 at 11:33 am
I don’t feel love is over rated as such, i feel like what we are doing to it, is ruining it. i think everyone should be able to experience “love” in their life time. Love is unique to each individual.
love this post 🙂 xx
September 13, 2018 at 11:47 am
Yes ,Exactly my point.
We are ruining our by our own misconceptions & confusions.
Thank you for reading 😃❤
September 13, 2018 at 12:52 pm
Love with girlfriend or boyfriend may be overrated if someone is getting inspiration from the pointers you have mentioned or else if it’s organic between two people – it’s the best thing to have. Love between parents or grand parents are something which is diminishing these days – some movies or social media should help those to bring to a point.
September 13, 2018 at 1:26 pm
Wow , this is really a good point.
Due to this overrated love or I would call it as attraction based relationships ,people starts ignoring their own family & friends just to make their partner happy .
You made really valid point here.
Thank you for reading 😃❤
September 13, 2018 at 3:33 pm
Thoughtful post Sumeet!!
September 13, 2018 at 3:44 pm
I’m glad you liked it. Thank you so much ,Kranti ❤😊
September 13, 2018 at 3:48 pm
😊❤️
September 13, 2018 at 3:58 pm
Those are some good points 😊
September 13, 2018 at 11:07 am
Thank you so much ,Sakshi 😀
September 13, 2018 at 11:07 am
My pleasure 😊
September 13, 2018 at 11:08 am
😃😃😃
September 13, 2018 at 4:06 pm
Wow I loveeeeeeeeee this
September 16, 2018 at 3:14 pm
Thank you so much 😀😀😀❤
September 13, 2018 at 4:18 pm
Awsum 1 ✌
September 13, 2018 at 11:07 am
Thank you so much ,suviksha ❤😀
September 13, 2018 at 4:35 pm
Brilliant post! I think everyone needs to realize this, great work!
September 13, 2018 at 11:07 am
Thank you so much ,Minnie ❤😀
September 13, 2018 at 4:50 pm
To the point.
Good one, bro.
September 13, 2018 at 5:35 pm
Thank you , Bro 😊❤
September 13, 2018 at 5:36 pm
😃
September 13, 2018 at 5:24 pm
Nice one buddy
September 13, 2018 at 5:35 pm
Thank you ,Arushi
😊
September 13, 2018 at 6:05 pm
Always welcome😏
September 13, 2018 at 7:04 pm
😊😊
September 13, 2018 at 6:10 pm
Very very realistic post..Sumeet
It’s really overrated..
Agreed to each and every point!!
Keep blogging!!👍👍
September 13, 2018 at 7:03 pm
I’m so glad you agree with me.
Thank you so much ❤😊
September 13, 2018 at 7:09 pm
Welcome!!
September 14, 2018 at 4:00 am
Great blog I must say!
September 14, 2018 at 5:21 am
Thank you so much 😊❤
September 14, 2018 at 4:54 am
Agree that in movies love is highly romanticized and people mistake that to be true love and end up being disappointed when in real life their love doesn’t match those standards.
But actually true love is such a beautiful experience where the connect is from the soul. One has to experience to feel it !!
September 14, 2018 at 5:24 am
True that.
People expect their love life to be same as what they see in movies/tv shows. And when their expectations doesn’t get fulfilled they break up & move on to someone else looking for the same love .
Yes ,true love is purest & most beautiful experience 😊❤
Thank you for reading❤
September 14, 2018 at 11:02 pm
Quite thought through from all angles. Mixes your thoughts well with the thoughts of “lovers”. 😀
September 15, 2018 at 2:37 am
I’m glad you liked it 😃
Thank you for reading 😃❤
September 15, 2018 at 12:25 am
love – the illusion of life …:p
nice man, I like the way you hate love thou real love cannot be express in words so everything people express through social media is not love but its merely an idea of love 🙂
September 14, 2018 at 7:00 pm
Haha , love the first line.
No ,Arooba . I don’t hate love ,i hate the overrated & misunderstood love .
True , this isn’t real love . Just an illusion ,as you said.
Thank you for reading ❤😃
September 14, 2018 at 7:17 pm
Dude true love exist somewhere…you know you and me are just unlucky human beings 😀
thou l love my first line too 😛
September 15, 2018 at 2:29 am
Hahaha , That’s true 😁😁😁
Thank you for reading 🤗
September 15, 2018 at 8:55 am
🙂
September 15, 2018 at 3:19 am
The one about focusing on your goals is extremely important! We often find ourselves lost in the pursuit of finding the “other half” so early in life when we haven’t even discovered ourselves!
September 15, 2018 at 4:50 am
So true ! I did this mistake of looking for love. But now I’ve learnt lesson & I know first I should love myself to fullest. I want to know more about myself first .
Thank you for reading 😃😃😃❤
September 15, 2018 at 3:54 am
Excellent points made in this post! So many people are looking for someone else to make them whole when they already have everything they need. When they do find that special someone they still aren’t happy because their relationship isn’t “perfect” like the unrealistic “Love” stories in movies, books and on social media. I’ve even see people constantly posting pictures on Instagram trying to make us all think they’re living “happily ever after” when in actuality they are preparing to fi,e for divorce. 1 Corinthians 7:25-28 offers great advice. If you’re single take advantage of your singleness. If you want to get married go ahead but there will be problems due to two imperfect people trying to come together as one. There are many pros and cons to both singleness and marriage. We shouldn’t miss out on the pros in each situation by focusing on the cons.
September 15, 2018 at 4:54 am
And Excellent points made in this comment 💯❤
People are fooled by the idea of someone out there who will complete them & make them happiest.
They seek for validation from others instead from within .❤
Yes ,there are pros & cons of both the sides.
One should start loving self & focus on overcoming own insecurities & difficulties first.
Thank you so much for this comment 😃❤❤
September 16, 2018 at 12:42 am
Lol…thank God I finally got one post which tells truth behind this dramatic mess,bullshit love quotes which isn’t work in real time and very true some of the Indian cinemas is spoiling us,stop believe in movies people.
September 16, 2018 at 2:11 am
Haha !! I’m glad you agree with my opinion 😀🙌..
Thank god Bollywood has started making movies which are not love stories…
Thank you for reading 😊❤
September 16, 2018 at 6:43 am
Haha… change has come✌✌
September 16, 2018 at 4:50 pm
Agreed bro.. .Now what we see is just social media “love”.
September 16, 2018 at 12:57 pm
So True , brother.
Thank you for reading & sharing your opinion 😊
September 16, 2018 at 5:15 pm
I don’t think love in itself is overrated. I think how it is marketed to use is overrated. We’re constantly sold this fairy tale love story such as two friends who magically start liking each other or a man suddenly meeting her future husband on the subway. That’s rare and mostly unrealistic.
As someone who has been disappointed regarding what I thought was love, I saw that it wasn’t. To me love is when you haven’t seen your dog in a while, and he lays in your lap.
Love is that friend making sure you have something to eat.
Love is your niece or nephew hugging you because they miss you.
Love is you making sure you have your own back.
The romance that The Notebook and Hallmark sells us dysfunction. I would also never pursue a relationship for “love”.
September 16, 2018 at 5:50 pm
I’m so glad that I’ve written this post & I’m getting to know a lot about this topic.
I’m so grateful to know your views.
I agree , love isn’t overrated . But the misunderstood love is overrated. The one which we see in movies ,series & books.
You’ve explained the real true love so beautifully . Thank you so much for this comment .😃😃😃😃❤
September 17, 2018 at 2:04 pm
So true. I can agree with you on almost all the points. Nice perspective
September 17, 2018 at 3:37 pm
Thank you so much ,Abhishek😀❤
September 17, 2018 at 4:03 pm
You’re utmost welcome buddy
September 17, 2018 at 10:41 pm
Hmmm…not really i would say
September 18, 2018 at 3:54 am
Movies are overrated. Love is the victim😀
September 21, 2018 at 11:08 am
Haha , well said 💯✌
September 20, 2018 at 2:24 am
I like how well you articulated the post.
September 21, 2018 at 11:08 am
Thank you so much 🙂
September 20, 2018 at 11:50 am
I rather think it is the idea of love that is overrated and not love essentially. I do agree with we are complete and do not need anybody to complete. However having a soul that complements you makes the completion beautiful.
September 21, 2018 at 11:09 am
Yes ,the wrong idea of love is overrated.
Thank you so much reading 😃
September 21, 2018 at 8:21 pm
great post! movies are not real!:))))))))))))))))))))))) and the ads:))))))))))))))))))so true you have me laughing…
September 22, 2018 at 1:47 am
Haha , I’m glad it made you laugh.
Thank you so much 😃😃❤
October 2, 2018 at 2:32 am
An interesting read. You forgot the pressure of parents wanting to see you settled and happy. They don’t realise that times have changed since they were ‘my age’ and we don’t have to have the 2.4 children by the time we are 30.
October 3, 2018 at 6:04 pm
No… why is it sometimes so hard to get “out of our heads”? … to “just think good thoughts”? … because we are wired to seek what is familiar, and sometimes those damn thoughts have been playing on a loop for years, decades…there is safety in familiar. But there is freedom in choice. Choosing to change your thinking, change your story. Choosing to BE Love. Choosing to DO life with full abandon, engaged and with light.
October 14, 2018 at 5:56 pm
I don’t believe love is overrated, but society does big it up to make people prioritise it which isn’t really necessary as some may think its the be all and end all. I definitely agree that yourself and personal goals are really important and that it can be over fantasized. Really enjoyed reading, thank you x
October 14, 2018 at 1:24 pm
Yes, exactly. So many external factors are making people believe that love is the goal or purpose of life.
I’m glad to know you enjoy reading it.
Thank you so much 😇❤
October 24, 2018 at 2:56 pm
Good post. It is really a need of time to write on this subject. Well written.
October 25, 2018 at 3:14 pm
Thank you so much ,Saya .😊
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October 25, 2018 at 4:24 pm
Hey..Thank you so much. It means a lot. Sure. I will check that.
October 25, 2018 at 5:36 pm
You’re welcome ,Saya😃❤
October 26, 2018 at 12:42 am
I agree to every bit about this article, loved it!
October 25, 2018 at 7:24 pm
Thank you so much ,The galli babe😃🙌
October 31, 2018 at 6:38 pm
Beautifully spoken from Your heart. You made a Positive emphasis on our ‘Self worth’
“to truly know what Love is……..We need to understand what it is”
Thank You for shinning Your ‘bright’ Light
October 31, 2018 at 5:04 pm
Thank you so much , this means a lot to me 😊
October 31, 2018 at 6:43 pm
I would like YOU to take a look at my blog…….Thank You
October 31, 2018 at 6:53 pm
Thank You for all the “Likes”………thank You for being part of our journey………We are all designed to shine……..to light up humanity…………thank You, for shining so bright………
November 1, 2018 at 5:31 pm
Hey , you are doing great job there. Keep it up. And my best wishes for your blog 😊❤
November 2, 2018 at 3:55 am
There is Power in words…………Thank You for Yours………..Have a bright and uplifting day
November 2, 2018 at 7:36 pm
Nice one dear
November 14, 2018 at 5:58 am
Thank you dear ❤️😇
November 11, 2018 at 9:55 pm
This was a really interesting read and you’re definitely right
November 12, 2018 at 2:44 am
Thank you so much 😀
February 18, 2019 at 2:51 pm
Really a much needed topic to share. 3rd topic about the personal goal is just PEEFECT.,👏
February 18, 2019 at 4:28 pm
Yes , personal goals matters a lot. But lot of people forget after getting into a relationship .
I’m glad to know that you liked it. Thank you so much 😊♥️
February 18, 2019 at 4:35 pm
😊😊
November 17, 2020 at 5:13 pm
hi can I quotes you in my medium? I really love this part
“I want to make it clear that , I’m not against Love/Relationships. I’m against the wrong ideology about relationships & love.
Because there are many examples of people ruining their own life due to these misconceptions about Love.”
thankyouu
November 17, 2020 at 5:37 pm
Hello Putri!
Thank you so much, I’m glad to know that you liked it.
Sure, with proper attribution/credits to my blog, you can quote it 😉