Hello Everyone !

From last few weeks this thought has been going on my mind. Everyday I keep observing people getting obsessed with love & relationships.

So I thought why not write a blog on this topic.

Lets start!

People this days perceive love/relationships as the most important & essential thing in Life.

Why I feel Love is Overrated ? You’ll get my point when you finish reading this post.

Who made love overrated?

  1. Movies puts great impact on viewers. Whatever we watch in Movies we often tend to believe in it. Also we want things shown in it to happen with us. We love watching Romantic movies. If you are an Indian then Congrats , you will find a love story in ever genre of movies.What’s wrong with love stories is Love is shown as the one & only end goal. Love is glorified as the most purest & important thing in life.
  2. Ads : Not only movies now a days in Advertisements also you can find a love story.
    For eg: By using A perfume you’ll get a girlfriend. What?
    Can you see what’s happening here ? They know how to fool people by showing a little love story in their ads.
  3. Social Media :

You must have seen this kind of quotes on social media like Facebook ,Instagram ,etc.

Social media has made Relationship as a status symbol. If you are single then you are often understood as Unattractive ,Uninteresting & Uncool.

What everyone needs to know

1. Movies aren’t real . As I said earlier in movies ,the only goal actor has in a movie is to marry the girl. For this he does everything he can. He fights ,gets beaten by gangsters, kills people with one kick, gifts moon to his love ( Too much here).Guys please understand this isn’t real.By watching this kind of things in movies , people imitate the actor in real life. When they get into a relationship they start doing everything they can just to make other person happy. In this they lose their self worth ,self respect & everything they have.

2. You don’t need anyone to complete you .

It Takes A Million People To Complete The World, But It only Takes One To Complete Mine.

Yes , you’ve read it before. This is the most stupid misconception we have. Nobody can make you complete but You.You were born as an individual. You were born as a complete person. You didn’t need anyone else to complete you. So stop obsessing over thought of finding someone to complete you.

3. Your personal goals are important.
People tend to lose their focus from their goals once they get into relationship. They make their relationship as one & only goal.And starts believing that only thing they need in life is Love.

No , I’m not against love. I’m against the wrong idea of love. Making sacrifices for your love is needed but while doing this never let your own life get affected.Never stop chasing your personal goals.

4. Stop waiting for someone to come in your life & make you happy. There are many single people out there who feels insecure ,inferior & sad just because they are single.

Every single guy/girl reading this ,stop looking for love. Use this time in improving yourself. Start working on your goals. Enjoy life to the fullest & keep working on yourself.

Final Words

Hopefully now you know why I feel love is overrated.

I want to make it clear that , I’m not against Love/Relationships. I’m against the wrong ideology about relationships & love.

Because there are many examples of people ruining their own life due to these misconceptions about Love.

So guys , love by keeping your eyes open.

Love as hard as can & start with “Yourself”.


Thank you for reading !

I’d love to know your opinion on this topic. Comment box is open for your thoughts & views. ๐Ÿ˜‰


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130 thoughts to “Is Love Overrated ?

  • optimisticsoul7373

    Good one dude !

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  • Liavi, TheVillageCinderella

    Totally agreed!

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  • RichAshish

    Everything is just business nowdays….It all depends upon perespection and self thought .

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    • Accidental Blogger

      So true Brother. Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ˜Šโค

      Reply
  • Riman Ray

    Agreeeeeeed!!
    Nice post sumit!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ,Riman ๐Ÿ˜ƒโค
      Btw it’s * Sumeet*
      ๐Ÿ˜‰

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      • Riman Ray

        Oh…am so sorry.

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      • Arushi

        So that’s your real name huh?

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Haha ,yes.
          How is it ?๐Ÿ˜‚

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          • Arushi

            Lol, it’s kinda dharmik๐Ÿ˜‚

          • Accidental Blogger

            Do we have a God named “Sumeet”?

          • Arushi

            Idk, but it feels like someone with-no-sins kind of person…and that’s my perspective

          • Accidental Blogger

            Haha , this might be true at some extent.๐Ÿ˜

            What Sumeet means is “A good friend” .

          • Arushi

            That you are….well atleast you’re a good acquaintance

          • Accidental Blogger

            Thank you !
            I’m glad we met , would love to get to know you more ๐Ÿ˜Š

          • Arushi

            Same here buddy๐Ÿ˜ƒ

          • Accidental Blogger

            โค๐Ÿ˜ƒ

          • Accidental Blogger

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          • Arushi

            Please send me the link again. And I’m flattered To be nominated, I have one query though…Can we nominate the person who nominates us?

          • Accidental Blogger

            I guess you’ve found the post.
            You deserve it ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ†
            No , you can’t because he/she is already nominated.
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  • murshid_akram

    Agreed at some extent

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m glad to know you agree with me , Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ˜€

      Reply
  • kishanlakhotia

    The so called love is also not real. Its only an attraction towards the opposite gender.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Exactly !
      This can be called as Infatuation .Also imitating what others are doing .

      Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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  • thejetsetgocouple

    Hey, I agree with you to some extent.
    Finding love on Tinder, Facebook and other dating site is quite hard I believe but hey that’s my opinion ๐Ÿ™‚
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    Movies aren’t real : AGREED
    I think now-a-days definition of love has changed and it has been defined as per as movies or daily soaps but then 20 years back it was defined by Shahrukh khan movies.
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    We don’t need anyone to complete us : AGREED
    I mean after falling in love we don’t get extra hand or eyes or something – We were born complete (I’m telling you these SRK movies)
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    Personal goals are important : NOT SO MUCH
    One shouldn’t change after falling in love (maybe a little bit). Your partner should love the way you are and you should also do the same thing (not one sided). However for relationships one may change their goals based on situation (Adaptation – Darwin Theory to survive) and if you do that for your partner without he/she asked you then it is Love.
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    Stop waiting for someone that can make you happy : AGREED
    Waiting for someone to be happy doesn’t mean LOVE that is called ARRANGE MARRIAGE (pun intended).
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    I would say LOVE is not overrated, it never was. However, if one is loving someone to seek companionship or be happy, then maybe one has understood the definition of LOVE wrong.
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    .
    Nice POST!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m so glad to read this comment.

      What I mean by personal goals is :
      Some people lose focus from their goals like career ,dreams ,etc and spend too much time in their toxic relationships.

      That’s what I said at the end of blog , I’m not against love. I’m not calling ” Love ” as overrated.
      The misconceptions people have makes it overrated for me. The wrong idea of love is overrated.

      Thank you so much for reading ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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      • thejetsetgocouple

        Yes, that’s what..I agree with you. “The wrong idea of love is overrated”
        (I was just answering your question in the end as your blog title says “Is LOVE overrated?” ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚ )
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        Very nicely written! In future, I will keep visiting your website again and again for some good content. Keep writing! ๐Ÿ™‚

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Oh ! ๐Ÿ˜€
          Thank you so much for all the kind words โคโค๐Ÿ˜ƒ

          It’s really great meeting you here. Looking forward to read more from you too โค๐Ÿ’ฏ

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  • Aditya Semwal

    Hi! Recently started reading your blog and loved it!
    Your title holds very true. Who knew an Accident would churn out such a great blogger!
    Welcome to the blogosphere!
    Are you a song of ice and fire fan?

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Wow , this means a lot.
      Haha ,true who knew๐Ÿ˜‚
      But no , I’m not great blogger. I’m just expressing my unexpressed thoughts here .

      Thank you so much.

      No ,i haven’t heard that. Will check it

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    • thejetsetgocouple

      I am fan of “Song of ICE and FIRE” ๐Ÿ™‚

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      • Aditya Semwal

        And I am ADDICTED!

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        • thejetsetgocouple

          Waiting for 2019!!!! “WINTER HAS COME” ๐Ÿ˜€

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Wow ,sounds cool.
          Need to check it now ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  • diaryofa21stcenturygirll

    I don’t feel love is over rated as such, i feel like what we are doing to it, is ruining it. i think everyone should be able to experience “love” in their life time. Love is unique to each individual.
    love this post ๐Ÿ™‚ xx

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes ,Exactly my point.
      We are ruining our by our own misconceptions & confusions.

      Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ˜ƒโค

      Reply
  • Train Today to Reap Tomorrow

    Love with girlfriend or boyfriend may be overrated if someone is getting inspiration from the pointers you have mentioned or else if itโ€™s organic between two people – itโ€™s the best thing to have. Love between parents or grand parents are something which is diminishing these days – some movies or social media should help those to bring to a point.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Wow , this is really a good point.
      Due to this overrated love or I would call it as attraction based relationships ,people starts ignoring their own family & friends just to make their partner happy .

      You made really valid point here.

      Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ˜ƒโค

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  • Kranti

    Thoughtful post Sumeet!!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m glad you liked it. Thank you so much ,Kranti โค๐Ÿ˜Š

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      • Kranti

        ๐Ÿ˜Šโค๏ธ

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  • Sakshi

    Those are some good points ๐Ÿ˜Š

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  • Thought for Change

    Wow I loveeeeeeeeee this

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€โค

      Reply
  • Suviksha

    Awsum 1 โœŒ

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  • Minnie

    Brilliant post! I think everyone needs to realize this, great work!

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  • Bharath Upendra

    To the point.
    Good one, bro.

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  • Arushi

    Nice one buddy

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  • supriyamishra2511

    Very very realistic post..Sumeet
    It’s really overrated..
    Agreed to each and every point!!
    Keep blogging!!๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

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  • cmapillay

    Great blog I must say!

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  • radhikasreflection

    Agree that in movies love is highly romanticized and people mistake that to be true love and end up being disappointed when in real life their love doesn’t match those standards.
    But actually true love is such a beautiful experience where the connect is from the soul. One has to experience to feel it !!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      True that.
      People expect their love life to be same as what they see in movies/tv shows. And when their expectations doesn’t get fulfilled they break up & move on to someone else looking for the same love .

      Yes ,true love is purest & most beautiful experience ๐Ÿ˜Šโค

      Thank you for readingโค

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  • amishachawla

    Quite thought through from all angles. Mixes your thoughts well with the thoughts of “lovers”. ๐Ÿ˜€

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m glad you liked it ๐Ÿ˜ƒ
      Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ˜ƒโค

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  • Arooba

    love โ€“ the illusion of life โ€ฆ:p
    nice man, I like the way you hate love thou real love cannot be express in words so everything people express through social media is not love but its merely an idea of love ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Haha , love the first line.
      No ,Arooba . I don’t hate love ,i hate the overrated & misunderstood love .

      True , this isn’t real love . Just an illusion ,as you said.

      Thank you for reading โค๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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      • Arooba

        Dude true love exist somewhere…you know you and me are just unlucky human beings ๐Ÿ˜€
        thou l love my first line too ๐Ÿ˜›

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Hahaha , That’s true ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜
          Thank you for reading ๐Ÿค—

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          • Arooba

            ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Kirti Vyas

    The one about focusing on your goals is extremely important! We often find ourselves lost in the pursuit of finding the “other half” so early in life when we haven’t even discovered ourselves!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      So true ! I did this mistake of looking for love. But now I’ve learnt lesson & I know first I should love myself to fullest. I want to know more about myself first .

      Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒโค

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  • heatherjo86

    Excellent points made in this post! So many people are looking for someone else to make them whole when they already have everything they need. When they do find that special someone they still arenโ€™t happy because their relationship isnโ€™t โ€œperfectโ€ like the unrealistic โ€œLoveโ€ stories in movies, books and on social media. Iโ€™ve even see people constantly posting pictures on Instagram trying to make us all think theyโ€™re living โ€œhappily ever afterโ€ when in actuality they are preparing to fi,e for divorce. 1 Corinthians 7:25-28 offers great advice. If youโ€™re single take advantage of your singleness. If you want to get married go ahead but there will be problems due to two imperfect people trying to come together as one. There are many pros and cons to both singleness and marriage. We shouldnโ€™t miss out on the pros in each situation by focusing on the cons.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      And Excellent points made in this comment ๐Ÿ’ฏโค
      People are fooled by the idea of someone out there who will complete them & make them happiest.
      They seek for validation from others instead from within .โค

      Yes ,there are pros & cons of both the sides.
      One should start loving self & focus on overcoming own insecurities & difficulties first.

      Thank you so much for this comment ๐Ÿ˜ƒโคโค

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  • sandhyajosephine

    Lolโ€ฆthank God I finally got one post which tells truth behind this dramatic mess,bullshit love quotes which isnโ€™t work in real time and very true some of the Indian cinemas is spoiling us,stop believe in movies people.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Haha !! I’m glad you agree with my opinion ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ™Œ..
      Thank god Bollywood has started making movies which are not love stories…

      Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ˜Šโค

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  • Chiru

    Agreed bro.. .Now what we see is just social media โ€œloveโ€.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      So True , brother.
      Thank you for reading & sharing your opinion ๐Ÿ˜Š

      Reply
  • wordsofabstudent

    I don’t think love in itself is overrated. I think how it is marketed to use is overrated. We’re constantly sold this fairy tale love story such as two friends who magically start liking each other or a man suddenly meeting her future husband on the subway. That’s rare and mostly unrealistic.
    As someone who has been disappointed regarding what I thought was love, I saw that it wasn’t. To me love is when you haven’t seen your dog in a while, and he lays in your lap.
    Love is that friend making sure you have something to eat.
    Love is your niece or nephew hugging you because they miss you.
    Love is you making sure you have your own back.
    The romance that The Notebook and Hallmark sells us dysfunction. I would also never pursue a relationship for “love”.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m so glad that I’ve written this post & I’m getting to know a lot about this topic.
      I’m so grateful to know your views.
      I agree , love isn’t overrated . But the misunderstood love is overrated. The one which we see in movies ,series & books.

      You’ve explained the real true love so beautifully . Thank you so much for this comment .๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒโค

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  • Abhishek pathania

    So true. I can agree with you on almost all the points. Nice perspective

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  • enochagbaje1

    Hmmm…not really i would say

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  • Sreejith

    Movies are overrated. Love is the victim๐Ÿ˜€

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  • Bhavna Saurabh Sharma

    I like how well you articulated the post.

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  • parikhitdutta

    I rather think it is the idea of love that is overrated and not love essentially. I do agree with we are complete and do not need anybody to complete. However having a soul that complements you makes the completion beautiful.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes ,the wrong idea of love is overrated.
      Thank you so much reading ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

      Reply
  • frangipani loving tropical lady sipping jasmine tea

    great post! movies are not real!:))))))))))))))))))))))) and the ads:))))))))))))))))))so true you have me laughing…

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Haha , I’m glad it made you laugh.
      Thank you so much ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒโค

      Reply
  • 30somethingloving

    An interesting read. You forgot the pressure of parents wanting to see you settled and happy. They donโ€™t realise that times have changed since they were โ€˜my ageโ€™ and we donโ€™t have to have the 2.4 children by the time we are 30.

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  • imlovedesigns

    No… why is it sometimes so hard to get โ€œout of our headsโ€? … to โ€œjust think good thoughtsโ€? … because we are wired to seek what is familiar, and sometimes those damn thoughts have been playing on a loop for years, decades…there is safety in familiar. But there is freedom in choice. Choosing to change your thinking, change your story. Choosing to BE Love. Choosing to DO life with full abandon, engaged and with light.

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  • intentforcontent

    I donโ€™t believe love is overrated, but society does big it up to make people prioritise it which isnโ€™t really necessary as some may think its the be all and end all. I definitely agree that yourself and personal goals are really important and that it can be over fantasized. Really enjoyed reading, thank you x

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes, exactly. So many external factors are making people believe that love is the goal or purpose of life.
      I’m glad to know you enjoy reading it.
      Thank you so much ๐Ÿ˜‡โค

      Reply
  • OptimistSaya

    Good post. It is really a need of time to write on this subject. Well written.

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  • thegallibabe

    I agree to every bit about this article, loved it!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ,The galli babe๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ™Œ

      Reply
  • become1one

    Beautifully spoken from Your heart. You made a Positive emphasis on our โ€˜Self worthโ€™
    โ€œto truly know what Love isโ€ฆโ€ฆ..We need to understand what it isโ€
    Thank You for shinning Your โ€˜brightโ€™ Light

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much , this means a lot to me ๐Ÿ˜Š

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      • become1one

        I would like YOU to take a look at my blog…….Thank You

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  • become1one

    Thank You for all the “Likes”………thank You for being part of our journey………We are all designed to shine……..to light up humanity…………thank You, for shining so bright………

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Hey , you are doing great job there. Keep it up. And my best wishes for your blog ๐Ÿ˜Šโค

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      • become1one

        There is Power in words…………Thank You for Yours………..Have a bright and uplifting day

        Reply
  • sharonchyy

    Nice one dear

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  • officialosi

    This was a really interesting read and youโ€™re definitely right

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  • Mohamadha๐Ÿ‘ธ

    Really a much needed topic to share. 3rd topic about the personal goal is just PEEFECT.,๐Ÿ‘

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yes , personal goals matters a lot. But lot of people forget after getting into a relationship .

      I’m glad to know that you liked it. Thank you so much ๐Ÿ˜Šโ™ฅ๏ธ

      Reply
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  • putri maulia

    hi can I quotes you in my medium? I really love this part

    “I want to make it clear that , Iโ€™m not against Love/Relationships. Iโ€™m against the wrong ideology about relationships & love.

    Because there are many examples of people ruining their own life due to these misconceptions about Love.”

    thankyouu

    Reply
    • Accidental Blogger

      Hello Putri!

      Thank you so much, I’m glad to know that you liked it.

      Sure, with proper attribution/credits to my blog, you can quote it ๐Ÿ˜‰

      Reply
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