Are you stuck in your past ?

Are you not able to stop blaming yourself/others ?

Are you feeling hopeless about future ?

If Yes , then keep reading further .

Hello Everyone !

Before I start this post ,I would like to share something with you all.

Two weeks back ,I received a mail from a girl (25 years old). She read my answer on quoraHow to get over a breakup” & she needed help. She wanted someone to listen her & help her to overcome her Abusive & toxic relationship.

It’s been 6 months since she broke up with her ex , but still she isn’t able to move on.

And guess what? That guy is already in a new relationship.

And the girl is still trying to move on from her past. She has lost all her hopes. She isn’t able to focus on her career .

And I’m sure there are many people out there who are in same situation as her ,so why not write a post about it πŸ™‚

Let’s start !

So , you had a painful past . Maybe a failure , A heartbreak , A big loss ,anything against your will.

I understand that what happened with you was really harsh & painful , but ask yourself

“Can I change what has happened ?”

“Will blaming myself/others help me to overcome the loss ?”

A huge NO is the answer you’ll get when ask these questions to yourself.

How to move on ?

1. Change your perspective :

When something happens against our will , we act like victims. We blame others for doing wrong. By overthinking we make that small issue the biggest problem of our own life. But when you change the way you look at your past failures , it can help you a lot towards creating best future for you. The first step towards moving on from past is ,looking at your past failure as an opportunity to become better version of yourself.

2. Look at the world around you:

Yesterday , I was watching TV Show called KBC. Ex Marine commando who fought with terrorists to save more than 150+ people was sharing his experience. When I heard it ,I was just numb. The way he & all the people who fought with those terrorists to save thousands of people was commendable. For a moment ,I felt so small in this world. All my problems felt so small & nothing in comparison with problems world is facing. My point is ,stop being a victim. Stop believing that your life or your problems are bigger than others.

β€œI cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet”

3. Keep yourself Busy :

I’ve already mentioned in my previous posts about it. When you are stuck on your past , you lose focus from everything. All you do is keep visiting your past ,analyze it & regret it. This cycle goes on & on. To get out of this cycle ,get into a new cycle. A cycle of engaging activities which will keep you engaged.

When I had breakup (Sorry , I keep mentioning my breakup) ,I didn’t have college for like two months. All I did in those two months was remain stuck in my past.

As soon as I got busy in college & classes , I started to move on. I didn’t have time for revisiting my past & over think about it.

This is what you gotta do. Find ways to be busy as much as possible. Get into a new hobby ,start working on your health ,meet new people ,write ,read ,paint, sing ,anything.

4. Learn from your past :

We often tend to blame others for our past failures. For ex: Most of the people who had a breakup , blame their ex partners for the breakup. They will tell you all the mistakes he/she did. But they won’t accept the mistakes they did. So ,stop blaming others & look for your own mistakes. Take responsibility of your mistakes & learn from them. Use your past mistakes in betterment of yourself.

5. Be Patient :

This is the most important step when you’re trying to overcome past. Since I’ve posted blog about how I moved on from my ex ,I got a lot of questions about how did I manage to move on & feel nothing when I saw my ex with someone else. Be patient & trust that you’ll move on. Some may move on early & some may require more time to heal. And it’s totally okay.

Final Words :

I know a lot of people are facing this problem & I hope this post helps to change the way we look at our past/problems.

Let’s stop thinking about what has happened & start doing what we need to happen.

If you found this post helpful , do share it with your family & friends.

Thank you for reading πŸ™‚


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66 thoughts to “How To Move On From Past

  • anamikaisblogging

    Very focussed post….. Great effort!

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  • Sakshi

    Great post

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ,Sakshi😊❀

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      • Sakshi

        My pleasure 😊

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  • Jaya Singh

    Nice post!

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  • Accidental Blogger

    Thank you so much ,Jaya😊

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  • Jyo

    Well written and well said !

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  • Thought for Change

    A very helpful post

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  • cassandre

    I love what you are doing… keep them coming❀

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much for your kind words , it inspires me to write more 😊❀

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  • Kranti

    Really helpful tips! Great post dear!!

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  • Akshaya Thulasi

    Nice post !!

    “Let’s stop thinking about what has happened & start doing what we need to happen.” – GREAT

    Keep motivating
    Keep inspiring
    Keep sharing

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I just made that line up ,glad to know you liked it😊😊
      Thank you so much for motivating me constantly ,Akshayaβ€πŸ™Œ

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  • Noor fatima

    So helpful. πŸ‘ŒπŸ™ƒ

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m glad you found it helpful ,NoorπŸ˜ŠπŸ™Œ

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  • Noor fatima

    πŸ™ƒπŸ˜‡

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  • Saania2806

    Very well said and so helpful!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ,Saania😊
      Glad to know that you found it helpful πŸ™‚

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  • Chiru

    Helpful post yar.. This would be so beneficial to many…. Keep sharing such posts..

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ,Chiru 😊
      Sure , I’ll keep sharing. πŸ™‚

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  • Sneha

    Wow! Congo for 100 Likes πŸ™‚

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much 100th liker😁❀

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      • Sneha

        Haha πŸ™‚

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  • azratarannum

    Great post!!πŸ‘

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  • Lolsy's Library

    My situation is my ex friends keep tagging each other in posts, having a go at me. So I’ve asked people to stop telling me,lol.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      That could be annoying. But I’m sure it will get better with time πŸ˜€πŸ™Œ

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  • OptimistSaya

    Very nice post….

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  • fortysomethingheyhey

    Great said!

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  • Shantanu Baruah

    Very important lesson well explained

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  • Currently Apple

    Very helpful tips. Great post! πŸ˜‰πŸ‘

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  • iScriblr

    Great tips and a wise post!

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  • Meenakshi

    The best thing I found in this article is you welcoming anyone and everyone to share their hidden pain πŸ™‚

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I feel the first step towards healing from hidden pains & problems is to let them out of our mind. That’s what I want everyone to do.

      I’m glad you liked it πŸ™‚

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      • Meenakshi

        yes, it is the first step!

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  • Winnie

    Great advice!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ,WinnieπŸ˜ƒβ€

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      • Winnie

        You’re welcome! 😊

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  • supriyamishra2511

    Accidentally, I don’t have none to break up.
    But some losses were…
    Well I had accepted that I made it and only I can fix and fit it. Some GEETA teachings helped me(recommended by my big brother).
    And this one is also very helpful.
    Keep inspiring and blogging, Sumeet!!πŸ‘πŸ‘

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Long time no see ,Supriya Ji..
      I’m glad to know Geeta teachings helped you to overcome the losses .
      Thank you for reading πŸ˜ƒβ€β€

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      • supriyamishra2511

        Yeah, I was busy these days… Actually had a exam.
        You are always welcome!!

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        • Accidental Blogger

          How was it ? I’m sure you did great job there πŸ˜‰

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          • supriyamishra2511

            Please don’t say that…
            We will see in results. It was a blunder and I know that result would be a blast.πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

          • Accidental Blogger

            No , not at all. I’m sure it will be great πŸ™ŒπŸ˜‰

          • supriyamishra2511

            Thank you!!
            But let’s see what happens.

          • Accidental Blogger

            You’re welcome ,Supriya Ji πŸ™‚

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  • Nahid Khan

    Couldn’t agree more.
    Oftentimes we think that we won’t be happy again, life wouldn’t be same without the person we love. But most of the times life gets better without them. (Mostly in toxic relationships)

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Hey Nahid ! First of all , thank you so much for commenting on this. It took me back to the time when I wrote this post. That time I was still struggling to get over my past (Still I wrote this post).

      Now when I look back at those times I can confidently say that yes it doest get better with time. And you are much better without them.
      But yes, you’ve to keep going forward in your life with positive attitude 😊

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      • Nahid Khan

        True.
        And that’s really strong of you to write such an encouraging post while being hurt yourself.
        I feel that once you reach to a point where them being happy doesn’t stir any emotion in you is like attaining “Moksha” (Refering to the post where you talk about a picture). You discover a new better version of yourself which somehow was caged unknowingly.
        P.S – I really like the way you write.😊

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        • Accidental Blogger

          That’s so true ! I’m not sure if I have attained the point of Moksha. But I’m much more stronger & positive than before.
          And , yes I’ve discovered new better version of myself.

          Thank you so much for the appreciation. Means a lot to me😊β™₯️

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          • Nahid Khan

            Pleasure is all mine.😊

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