Just had a breakup & feeling like your world is about to end?

Are you feeling like you’ll end up being loneliest creature in the world?

Have you started feeling that your Ex will find someone so much better than you ?

Are you already blaming yourself for the breakup & begging your ex to come back?

If your answers to all of the above questions is Yes then this post is for you ..

How to get over a Breakup ?

First of all if your answer to my 4th question is positive then please stop doing it i.e. Stop begging her/him to stay.

I’ve been through a really hard breakup which happened around 6 months ago. So from my experience I’ve learnt a lot of things which one should do & shouldn’t do after his/her breakup .

I’ll be trying my best to help you get over your breakup.

Steps to get over a Breakup

  1. Accept It :

This is most important thing to do just after a breakup & which is really hard to do. During a relationship people get so attached to their partner that even after breaking up with them , they can’t accept it.

Accept that you two are no longer together & there is a reason why you are not together anymore.

2. Analyze your relationship :

Just as I’ve mentioned above, accept that you broke for a reason. Look back in your relationship & try to find out what caused the breakup .

When you get to know the real reason behind it ,ask yourself if you still want to be with that person with the reason that caused breakup ?

Is that problem solvable ? Is your partner ready to solve that problem with you?

3. Take A Break :

I know you’re missing your ex so much ,I know you are feeling like you can’t live without him/her .

Just take a deep breath & relax. Give yourself alone time. Take a break from Social media.

What will this do is it will divert yours & your ex’s mind from breakup to other things in your respective lives which is needed.

Even if you feel like the problem with you two can be solved , still take a break . Because it will give you clearer picture of what has happened & what needs to be done .

4. Focus On Yourself :

While we are in a relationship we tend to give more importance to our partner than ourselves.

During your break you need to shift your all your focus to yourself.

Start taking care of yourself. Make yourself happy by doing something which cheers you up like Dancing , Singing , Traveling , Being with family ,etc .

5. Do Something New:

Get out of your comfort zone & do something which you have never done before.

If you are not person who takes care of own health then you can start doing it. You can start doing Exercises ,Running ,Swimming , Gymming,etc .

Anything which you wanted to do but couldn’t do due to stupid excuses.

What I did after my breakup is that I started writing. All of this you’re reading right now is the outcome of my breakup .

My blog Writing My Heart Out is because of my Breakup.

What this will do is that it will take you to a different atmosphere. You’ll be able meet different Experiences ,people , things.

This will help you to get your mind away from Breakup & keep you busy.

6. Achieve Something :

Achieve something big. Set a goal to achieve something by yourself.

After my breakup , I set a goal to lose my weight (Which I was already doing but breakup gave me more motivation) .

So I started working hard in gym as well as at home .

And my hard work payed off.

( I will write separate post describing “My Transformation”.

Achieving something makes you feel proud of yourself. It motivates you to do better. You feel happy with yourself & You don’t need anyone to make yourself happy.

7. Be Patient :

I know the steps mentioned above are easy to read & understand , but hard to implement.

I have been though a really hard breakup recently & I’d like to tell you that Getting over a breakup & following above steps is not easy.

There will be time when You’ll feel Alone , Empty or hopeless. You’ll lose motivation . You will start blaming yourself ,doubting yourself.

No matter how hard it gets never lose hope. Keep in mind that ” All of this is making you stronger “.

So Be patient & Keep working !

Sometimes the most uncomfortable learning is the most powerful.” ~BrenΓ© Brown

Conclusion :

I can write a lot on this topic but I don’t want this post to be too long.

So whoever just had a breakup or who is finding hard to move on remember Take a break , Love yourself , Get out of your comfort zone ,Be patient that’s it .

And if you feel like the problem happened between you & your ex can be solved , then do talk with your Ex and solve it together .

All the best !

Have more useful tips/advice to get over a breakup? Write them below in comment section πŸ™‚


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52 thoughts to “How To Get Over A Breakup?

  • Akshaya Thulasi

    Nice post !!
    Utterly liked it.
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    & My suggestion is : to start WordPress 😊 It will definitely help us to forget our pains & depressions ( in the light of my own experience )
    Enjoyed reading
    Keep sharing πŸ’™

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ,Akshaya πŸ˜€

      Yes ,wordpress has helped me a lot .I can’t thank them enough ❀

      Reply
  • Thought for Change

    This is very helpful. I hope that you post something about how to get over a friendship breakup.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you so much ,Adithya πŸ™‚

      My Ex was my best friend so It was a breakup with girlfriend as well as a best friend .

      All steps mentioned above & positive mindset will definitely help to get over anything .

      I’ve had really hard time getting over it . I’ve cried ,blamed ,regretted . But I had a hope that ” I’ll get over it “.

      Hopefully this helps .I will surely try to write post on this topic with additional points .

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      • Thought for Change

        Thank you. It’s just too hard I broke up with my best friend 4 years ago but still I’m not over it.

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        • Accidental Blogger

          I can understand .
          I still sometimes miss my Ex . And that’s okay .
          Just tell yourself that it’s okay to miss the old times with your closed ones .

          No one can permanently get over someone whom you loved truly . So it’s okay to miss them or think about them .
          Just change your perspective when you think about your best friend πŸ˜ƒ

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          • Thought for Change

            Thank you Sumeet 😊

          • Accidental Blogger

            You’re welcome ,Adithya 😊

      • Arushi

        Great advice honestly. I agree with each point mentioned

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  • Inspirational Leader

    Great post!

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  • Kranti

    Excellent post!! Definitely your post is gonna help many!! πŸ™‚

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you, Kranti 😊❀
      Hopefully it does , that is what my motive is .

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      • Kranti

        πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

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  • Pavan Athreyas

    Thank you for posting this. This was exactly “the thing” that I wanted to read even though I knew some of them. Yeah. Hearing it from someone else brings a better impact. Thank you, again. Keep it going, buddy.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m Glad you got to read what you wanted 😊😊
      You’re welcome ❀

      Reply
  • Shantanu Baruah

    A great post. I am sure lot can get help from this.

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  • Krishna

    This is absolutely meaningful..breakup even though painful helps us to grow up and when we start to love ourselves and care like the one whom we loved and cared for, the pain will gradually disappear and also with time we will be rid of frustrations and other such emotions.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      So true !!! That’s what I wanted to convey people through this post.
      Thank you for reading β€πŸ˜€

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      • Krishna

        Pleasure πŸ™‚ stay happy…good times are on the way πŸ™‚

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  • idealideas

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  • Akriti pandya

    I needed these tips. You’ve framed it so well. Keep writing. Stay blessed 🌼

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Glad it helped you πŸ˜ƒ
      Thank you !
      You too❀

      Reply
  • The Flawddess

    I have never had any breakups bcoz I have never been in any relationship. 🀣LOL

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Haha , that’s a good thing 😁
      You can share this post with someone who is going through a breakup ✌

      Reply
  • struggleswithmentalhealth

    Thank you so much for this. I’d to talk to you so I’ll try and contact you in the link you gave because I’m going through a breakup and I would love any help I can get πŸ™‚

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    • Accidental Blogger

      You’re welcome !
      I will be happy to talk with you πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ

      Reply
  • travelingtrish1

    Such great advice!! Breakups are never easy, and I think the hardest part is missing having the other person around. I have to remind myself why we broke up constantly so that I don’t call/text.

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Thank you πŸ˜€
      Yes , they aren’t. But hardest situations makes you strongest πŸ’―
      Stay strong & positive β€πŸ˜€

      Reply
  • optimisticsoul7373

    And she gave us a beautiful writer to the world <3 πŸ™‚
    Nice post πŸ™‚

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Haha , my ex?
      Thank you so much . ❀

      By the way I’m not able to access your site. Maybe you’ve changed your address but not changed it in your profile settings.

      Reply
      • optimisticsoul7373

        Yeah I’ve change ..Still I couldn’t redirect to my current blog ..and yeah ths is my blog πŸ™‚
        https://optimisticsoulin.com/
        I’ve been writing since long but Im new to this platform πŸ™‚

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        • Accidental Blogger

          Got it!
          I just checked your blog & it’s quite interesting.
          All the best ❀❀

          Reply
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  • allqueensrise

    I needed this πŸ’›

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    • Accidental Blogger

      I’m glad to know that you found it helpful😊

      Reply
  • jamiebrooke12

    I agree, it definitely takes time to heal. I believe working on yourself & achieving your goals are great steps to moving forward with your life. Good advice!

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    • Accidental Blogger

      Yeah , exactly.
      Thank you so much for reading Jamie😊

      Reply
  • Hope, Lust, & Miscarriage

    This is so helpful to so many people, thanks for posting.

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  • rishabbs

    Very well said.Nature teaches you how to overcome breakup ,just have a look at my blog ….the breakup poetry.

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