Love will distract you from your goals.
You’ve probably heard this from your parents, siblings or friends older than you. Basically, from the people who have more life experience than you.
And I’m sure you didn’t really listen to this advice in your younger days. Unless you got into a crazy relationship and it messed up your studies and other personal goals.
Well, let’s see if this piece of advice is true or not.
No one can really prove that love can be a distraction to your personal goals or career. That would be a very harsh judgement on Love.
Love or relationships between immature people who have limited amounts of knowledge about people, love, relationships and life experiences, can be called a “distraction“.
Love / Relationships In Teenage
At teen age it’s tough to sustain a healthy relationship. You, your partner, both are still learning about everything.
You guys don’t even know who you are and what you want. You might have got attracted to each other because one of you smiled at the other & reminded of some romantic song.
It sounds silly, but that’s what happens in that age.
Your brain produces these crazy chemicals and that makes you feel damn good. So you keep doing it by thinking about this person, texting them from your parents phone, waiting for them after school/college and ignoring your studies.
You invest so much of you in this relationship but it doesn’t work out. Why?
Because the relationship was based on attraction, fantasies or sudden spike in your hormones.
It was meant to fail.
So, yes! Love or relationships in younger age can prove to be a serious distraction from your personal goals.
What About Love/ Relationships in the 20’s ?
You might be wondering why your relationship in your 20’s failed?
There are people who remain immature irrespective of their age. Age can never define maturity of a person.
In case of relationships, maturity is achieved when a person accepts and learns from mistakes he/she made in previous relationships.
But it also doesn’t mean that mature people won’t experience relationship failures.
Also read : Why Most Relationships Fail – 2 Major Reasons
Okay, let’s get back to the topic.
A mature person will never let any relationship or a person distract him/her from his/her personal goals. And will make sure that he/she doesn’t distract his/her partner too.
We can’t be so harsh on Love by calling it as a distraction. There are many successful couples who have achieved so much in their lives without affecting their partner’s career or goals.
They have actually inspired each other to get better & achieve more.
Is Love Still A Distraction ?
Again, it depends.
You can’t generalize it based on a few failed relationships of immature and confused people.
The right person will never distract you from doing whatever you want to do outside of your relationship.
Because this person also has a different life outside this relationship. This person has personal goals to work on, exams to prepare for, workout sessions to hit, friends to meet, etc. That’s why he/she will understand.
So, it’s up to you. You are the one who will choose your person so you better be right.
If your chosen one makes you feel bad, confused or guilty for taking out time for your personal goals & life, then you must have made a wrong choice.
It’s time to leave that relationship as it is going to harm both of you.
Hope I made some sense here. Let me know if I did or not.
Thank you for reading!
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